have i lost my best friend?

[Sean]

I am a freshman in college, I've been in college for 13 days so far. I met one of my closest friends through facebook several months before moving in, who is in the same residential hall as me and we were like best friends up until this point.

The first few days I was always with her and a group of other friends. I went to the hospital last sunday (10 days ago) after I was fooling around and got bodyslammed and hit my head on the ground, she came with me to the hospital. I care so much about her and I would do the same for her, and she obviously cared about me a lot. I sent her a stupid text last Tuesday about her telling someone else that I ignored them, which was true but, anyway I sort of yelled at her, but I'm not sure if she was actually annoyed at the text, or annoyed at the fact that I've been sort of attached to her and clinging to her the first few days here.. As of last Wednesday, I know she wants space, and she won't respond to my calls or texts and even when I pass her by on campus she pretends as if she doesn't see me and looks away. The question I have is, do you think this is temporary, and if so, how much longer do you think this will go on, or she doesn't want to be friends anymore? I really don't think there's anything I can do about this situation but let her approach me if she wants to talk. I'm sort of struggling now because I think I've lost a friend.

Also she told another person that I was too clingy, but she told her not to tell me that, but she did yesterday, I don't understand why she wouldn't tell me this directly.

I can't stop thinking about her, I really want to talk to her but I know she doesn't want to see or talk to me right now, I really don't know what to do.

I miss her so much

[N1c0]

if your a dude... just play it cool treat her the same way and ignore her... your just pushing her away by trying to contact her.... but if your female... i have no advice for you. ima guy and ik that bros get in fights sometimes but its fine. girls though, hold grudges

[Bax]

Being a freshman in college is a difficult time for anyone. It helps to have a close friend to go through things with at college. But knowing someone on Facebook for a few months is not a good basis for a close friendship. It may feel like it is, but trust me... it's not.

This friendship may or may not mend itself. But that can't be your focus. This is an important time in your life and there are many, many people out there who would be great friendship material for you. You can't spend your time mourning the potential loss of this one friend when you are in the middle of a majorly overwhelming situation as a freshman at college. If you do, years later, it will feel like time that was wasted.

Maybe you were being too clingy. That's totally understandable in your situation. Don't take it personally. You may even want to casually admit to her, without ratting out the other person, that you realize you were being too clingy because of everything that's new in your life right now. It's natural to want there to be something constant and stable. But you need to understand it's not her job to help you adjust to college life.

You probably haven't lost her as a friend. She probably just needs some space. Give it to her and go about getting to know other people and start the process of building your social circle. She will either join it in time, or she won't. Either way, you have to move forward because this is the best time of your life and you can't waste it on a silly mistake. Learn from it and be a bit more self-reliant next time. But don't let it ruin your college experience.