Should I even bother with him anymore? Or just move on?

[Mara]

There's this guy I really like. Thing is, he doesn't like me. I always thought he did since he's been so flirty with me (but guess that's just his personality). He's all confident, super nice to me, pays for me whenever we hang out, super talkative, considerate, fun, and I never get bored with him. He's been my friend for about a year now, and each time we hang out I fall more in love with him. I am like totally obsessing over this guy!! But the thing is, he doesn't like me back. My friend sent him a text asking whether he likes me...well she asked specifically not that, but if he thinks I'm cute and he thought it was weird to ask. I noticed that since then though he acts like it never happened and never brought it up to me. We hang out a lot at school but now I just don't want to knowing how he feels about me. It's not like he has a gf or anyone, so with the way he acted I always thought he liked me.I felt led on and I hate getting all these mixed signals!!

So do you think I should even bother with this guy anymore (in liking him)...I mean my obsession with him is rly bad like I will go late at night on facebook and see if he's there (it's like stalker-like haha) and go through his page....It's so bad. I think about him like ALL the time...even can't focus in class (and it's even worse now after knowing this!) . But he is like always on that site and talks to me there for like HOURS!!! Seriously he doesn't like me, it sucks :/

I'm thinking that moving on would be best.but you see that's very hard to do, since I keep thinking about him all the time I don't know how. Plus the fact that he's friends with most my close friends that hang out with me and we usually all hang out together in a group at school. I keep bumping into him at school too...and I used to always be happy when I see him but now I just want to avoid him and can't even look at him the same way anymore. It really saddens me. He talks to me like nothing happened, I hate that. Yeah I know it was just a text but still....like I don't want to talk to him if there's "nothing" there and we're just friends...I felt like I put in a lot time for him since I knew him and thought he'd be on the same page as me but I guess some reason I was wrong. And it's like really embarrasing and awkward now...I cant talk to him the same way anymore...I'm like "faking" it, faking the smile on my face. I hate it. I used to love hanging out with him and everything!
So, I'm still confused about what I should do from now on?

What do you all think? I'd really appreciate detailed answers but if not, at least any answer that's helpful will work. Thanks in advance!! 10 pts best answer

[deepbranch106]

If he's not into you the best thing to do is move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Close to 7 billion people in this world it's very possible that he'll come to you (the guy made for you) when you least expect it.

[jway]

It doesn't sound like he did anything "wrong" - he likes you and he's super friendly to you but he just doesn't feel anything especially romantic for you. That's not his choice or his fault though - he feels what he feels and unfortunately what he feels is not quite what you'd like him to feel.

The problem is that there's nothing you can do about your feelings either. They're there -- you didn't ask for them to be there, they just came along all by themselves -- and pretending that you don't feel them and that he's just a friend isn't going to make them go away. Avoiding all your friends because you fear running into him isn't going to work either.

I think it's a lose-lose situation no matter what decision you make. Maybe the best thing is to just tell him what you feel? At least you won't be running away from your problems (which never really works). I don't know sorry.