My boyfriend never wants to go out with me anywhere..?

[Astrid]

We're generally happy together. Have been together 2 years. I moved in with him for the first time a year ago, and he's 33; I'm 21. In the beginning of our relationship he would go with me all kinds of fun places and do more spontaneous things. But now even though he's only in college, no work, he will never go out with me anywhere. This haunted house for example has 5 stars on Yelp, only $10 to get in, and though I beg he won't go with me cause he doesn't like haunted houses. I almost majored in art, so I like going to gallery/museum openings if the shows are good (like there was one with Matisse that only cost $1 to get in), and I can't get him to go with me. He won't hardly ever go out to dinner or the movies with me, but when we do go out that's all he'll do. He won't go bowling with me, or ice skating, because he just doesn't like to. He won't go to the public market or any other spontaneous, fun, normal couple stuff. When we do go out to dinner he's so picky it takes him 2 hours to decide to go somewhere and will never go to a place I like even if it has good reviews. I'm going crazy here because I moved to Canada with him and don't have any other friends though I'm trying. He'll spend 4 hours a ay on Twitter, or 6 hours gambling at the casino, or 5 hours watching football but if I want to go do something simple like bowling I have to go alone (or go with a girl, which isn't as fun because I like to have go out with a romantic partner more). I feel really depressed and lonely. It's been like 4 weeks since we went out together and when we do go out he just sits and does Twitter or Words with Friends on his iphone, so it's kind of like I'm alone anyway. Is this just how things go? Am I expecting too much? AgggHhhhhhh.

[Adam]

Your 21 year old idea of normal couple stuff isn't his 33 year old idea of normal couple stuff.


I see this consistently being the problem between couples with a large age gap.

[grandabx]

women need to stop settling and be more active finding a mate. this is what happens when he chooses you first. too much power. he KNOWS women wait around to be asked out and figures he HAS YOU FOR GOOD. you aren't going to find anyone(or even look). why buy the cow if the milk is free? find someone else. fast.

[Sarah]

You are not expecting to much. I was in a similar situation. My ex never wanted to go out and for three months we either stayed in watching TV or went to the movies. I eventually got tired of it and left him. Best decision I ever made. I am now with a lively, out going, and adventurous guy who is more than happy to do the things I enjoy doing. Tell your boyfriend how you feel and give him an altimatum. You deserve to be happy too. It can't always be his way.