How to let go, I need to move on. I'll answer your's?

[Jacob]

After about three months after my break up, which I still haven't found out why, I had finally gotten over my ex girlfriend, I had finally gotten to a stage where I felt good. Then my ex and I started to become friends again, we were getting closer and it got to the stage where it was just like it was before we broke up. It was great and my feelings for her came creeping back. Well I guess they never felt but I had supressed them in a way. Then a week ago she asked me if I wanted to go the movies with her and to have lunch at our favourite café, the one we went to while dating. And I said yes, and then I felt the way I felt just before I asked her out for the first time. Her she was, she was the one who and really got close and she then asked my tot eh movies. And I thought that it was a single that she may have wanted to get back together.

Yesterday we went to the movies and it started off good, we had a good time. Then I found out that she had a boyfriend, but we had lunch and still had a good time despite me feeling gutted. Then later on when we were going to another café, she ran into a group of friends and sort of ditched me.
And now, I’m heartbroken again. You know with the fact that she asked me to the movies like we used too and that she had a post on Facebook about finding love and keeping it, and I was stupid enough to think that we could have gotten back together. My friends all warned me against going with her but I thought things might get better, I was stupid enough not to listen to them

I keep letting myself get thrown around by her and it has to stop. I keep pouring my heart out to her, like we walked past some shops and she said.

“You know, when I was little I wanted to be bigger so I could wear stuff like that, cause I was skinny back then and you know how loose clothes look bad. Then I got fat, no in between skinny or what, just fat”

And I said.

“Tanika, you not fat, you’re beautiful, always.”

Every time she calls herself fat, I tell her the truth, that’s she’s beautiful .She’s not the slimmest of girls but she’s still beautiful. And later when we were having chips she looked over at a couple next to us and said

“You know, I wish I could find a guy who thinks I’m beautiful”.

Was she purposely leading me on? Or just didn’t realise? As much as I hate this, I need to move on. I feel so much for her but it just feels like it’s one sided. I give and give with nothing in return. And I can’t keep doing this to myself. I have to move on. It’s stupid but I feel the same right now as I did when we broke up, as if yesterday we broke up for the second time. Last time I tried to remain her friend but now, and I hate myself for this but just I don’t want to be her friend any longer. I just want her out of my life, is that selfish? Is it wrong? I mean I’ve lost friend through distance and drifting away but never through wanting them out. I just don't know, there’s so much just through my head right now, I just don't know what to think for something’s.

If you have any help to give, please do because I need it right now.

[alexismoon]

I think your insticts are right and you should break it off with her. Delete her Facebook so you can't see what she is doing. With time you will get over her then. I'm going through this myself. It's hard.

[M]

Weather she is purposely leading you on or not is insignificant she is being hurtful and thats not healthy for you. When I went through something like this the question i asked myself that helped me feel allot better was "Think of how much you miss your ex, now ask yourself what percentage of those feelings are because you actually miss them and what percentage of those feelings are because your afraid of being alone" Your not selfish for not wanting her in you life because shes hurtful if I were you I would stop hanging out with her to prevent yourself from being hurt more. Remember you NEED to like/love people that care for you just as much as you care for them, you deserve to be treated with respect.