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Coco · 11-09-2012, 09:45 AM

Mind you we are in college! Everybody is 19 or 20. Well my friend Devante and have been friends since freshmen year of high school. Well last year we dated for a bit but were honestly better as friends. Nothing bad we just both noticed we argued more while dating and didn't want that to ruin our friendship.

Well after that he had already been dating some girl Dekota for like a month or 2 tops before he dumped her for me. Well once they broke up she hated me. We broke up and they were back together in a week.

I didn't really care because that's my friend he can do what he wants. Well this little girl doesn't want us being friends because we "started off as friends before". I'm just like are you seriously? No I have a boyfriend now.

Well last night was his birthday and so we went out to party. I gave Devante a present and he had me dance with him. Well Dekota got MAD! She went to my boyfriend saying how he needs to watch me cause I'm a dirty hoe. Then since I posted happy birthday ob his Facebook she likes the post then messages me talking about "leave D alone before I spit on your bxtch axx".

I'm just excuse me no! It's not that serious and ill be damn if she spits on me.

I'm not scared to fight her but is rather not because I'm grown and fighting is childish especially about a guy.

Can I get advice please

QuasiTroll · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Don't you have any other friends?

You are not in the wrong, you haven't *done* anything wrong. . . but c'mon. It should be obvious to you where this girl is coming from - she feels you're still interested in her boyfriend, or that he is still interested in you. It's not rocket science.

Either ignore it, or better yet - stop posting things on his FB page, stop maintaining a considerable level of contact. Surely, since you care for your friend, you do not wish to make his life difficult, or to cause problems in his relationship. . . right?

She has no business threatening you, but I think you're being deliberately obtuse. Sure, you have the right to be friendly, and to *dance* with another girl's boyfriend. . . but with that comes the expectation she will not be appreciative.

S · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Don't be so demanding !> Sad

Katy · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Soo trivial.
Grow up. Don't talk to her. And don't listen to stupid rumors.

G · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

She has no right to dictate whom HE is friends with. Her behavior is childish and silly. If you just rise above and don't reciprocate perhaps Devante will notice that her antics are immature. I wouldn't take her threats that seriously because she seems dramatic, but I would not stoop to her level.

If Devante is truly your friend, he will realize that you are a better friend to him than his girlfriend is to him.

Rawr · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Show him that message that she sent u. Hopefully he will then talk to her and she will feel stupid and leave u alone.

Annoyingsong724 · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Sorry, but you and Devante need to be friends from a distance. You all have history.....so by you dancing wth him and all, I would be upset too if I were her. She said she was going to spit on you....now that's just straight up disrespectful. Don't be no fool though. If she spits on you, you need to rip her a new one.

the DT · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Your best defense is a good offense. That means you should try and make her a friend and not an enemy. It won't be easy but it can be done. But it will mean that you make the first step and take most of the responsibility. I mean, surely you can understand her point of view, right?

So you could start by saying "Hey, listen. I am sorry that we have had conflict about Devante and I want you to know that I want us all to get along and for you and Devante to be happy together. I understand your uneasiness about that because he and I had a brief relationship. But you also have to agree that he is with you now and not just because we realized that we were destined to be only friends and not a couple. He obviously cares for you (if he loves her then use that word). And because he and I are friends I want what is best for him. A friendship between you and I would be the best way I can think of to resolve things and make peace for all of us. So is it possible we can be friends? We could even double date if you'd like."

Nick · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

Lol.. Just tell her to be more mature xP

shortstuff · 11-09-2012, 09:53 AM

What does your friend see in this girl? What does he think about her behavior? It will be up to him to stop the situation. She is jealous because she is insecure. If you are truly "grown" ( sounds ghetto to me) then you should invite her out to lunch and have a one on one talk with her. Explain that you know that she is struggling to find her place with Devante, and that you and he are just friends. Tell her that you tried to date, but that it did not work out. Tell her the truth, and tell her with the attitude that you want her relationship with him to work. Tell her that you are not a threat, nor will you ever become one. Ask her to become your friend too. THAT is how to deal with people... NOT fighting and spitting. Good grief....