Wtf??!why is my dad cheating on my mum??!?

[mirabelle]

im a 13 year old girl living with my 2 married parents

when my dad was in the shower i looked on his phone and there were loads of messages(on his facebook)he sent to women like"love u babes xxx" and "i want the best for you xx" and "i will always find a place for you in my heart xxx".i was so shock i couldnt read more.i know it was wrong of me to look at his messages but....

when i was little my dad cheated on my mum and they separeted.i was really horrible because my mum went into a deopression(shes bipolar)and she had to go to hospital.

after a year they got back together and now,im 13,and i find out he doing it again!

i really dont wanna tell my mum and i dont have any family in this country!

WHAT SHOULD I DO??!please help

P.s.i took pics of the messagrs(they're in my secret folder on my phone)so i have proof.

no answers like "stop snooping around your dad's phone!" or "this is an adult thing"

also its not family or good friend because i looked at her profile and its a woman in her twenties that live in the same town as us!(weve only been living her 3 years!)

i know i shouldnt have looked at the messages but i did...

also im not confident enough to tell my mum because i love her so much i dont want her to feel hurt!!!

btw mat i point out he is a 50 year old methodist(christian priest)!!!

[Joseph Y]

The best thing you can do in this terrible situation is tell your mom. You not telling her is only prolonging the pain. Or, you could confront your dad about it.

[Owen E]

Why are you looking at your dad's phone number 1 2nd what your dad does is really none of your business and have you ever thought maybe those were texts to you and your mom?. Unless you actually see him do something stay out of it mom will find out soon enough if anything is going on.
So what your saying god fairing men never cheat get real.

[Andrew]

You are in a very difficult situation, you know what you should do as you have mentioned all the options in your question, however none of these is appealing to you for obvious reasons.

I would suggest therefore, just trying to do things that brings you all together as a family, suggest family days out, sit with your parents and hug them, tell them both how much you love them and hope that you will always be together as a family unlike so many other family's from school/church wherever.

If you don't feel confident about broaching the subject with either parent, which is understandable there is not much more you can do but be there for both of them.

But my top recommendation would be to speak to your farther, say you stumbled on the messages by accident and wish you had not seen them but once you saw one you looked at another etc. tell him you love him and want him to be happy but explain how much it would hurt you if he split with your mother and also that cheating on her is just not right.

I feel for you as you have stumbled into an adult problem that you would be better off not knowing about.