Mother in law driving me crazy...?

[Val]

Anybody out there have a MIL who is ALL over your baby?

I have a son who is 7 weeks today. She is just all over him. Idk what it is, but it just makes me so mad!

It's like she wants to play mommy. She constantly wants him over at her house, and when other family members are wanting to hold him, she pouts and says "no i want to hold him"

When we go somewhere with her, she carries either him or the carseat (with him in it) around and shows him to everyone. Sometimes she even takes him out of the carseat (without asking) and asks someone else WITHOUT asking me, "do u want to hold him?" like hes her dang baby.

All of her friends have made it all about her. "Oh he looks just like you" "what a sweet baby you have" Uhm, hes not her baby and he certainly does NOT look like her.

She always tries to run my (soon to be) husband and I off so she can hover around him and kiss him all over the place. I know she is his gma, but i dont want her germs and breath all over him.

The other night she was holding him a way he didn't like to be held and she said "do u have a tummy ache" and i said "no he doesn't like to be held like that, here let me walk him around for a little bit" so i reach out for him and she just gets up and walks off in the kitchen trying to calm him down.

She has him as her profile picture on facebook, her timeline cover, she has to comment on EVERY picture i post of him and she even tags herself in them when i only want his dad tagged.

Everytime someone asks me a question involving Liam (my son) she has to butt in and answer it before i ever get the chance.

I don't have much time with him during the week as it is because of school, and weekends are the only actual quality time i have with him, and she knows that. But i guess she don't care, she just wants him to herself when i go with them places. I told my fiance all this running around on the weekends is gonna have to stop, mom and dad come first, not grandma.

Is she obssesive? Am i overreacting? Is it a first time mom thing?
I really dont think i "hit the nail on the head" She needs to let me handle it. Whats said is said

[Vicky Parker]

I think you hit the nail on the head with the mommy comment. Look...she's just excited and proud. I think you just need to be a bit more assertive with her - not rude - just assertive. For example, if someone asks you a question about the child and she butts in wait for her to finish and then address the question as if she had said nothing. You need to gently remind her whose baby this is .....gently I said.

[Rebecca]

I think it's a little bit your mother in law not observing boundaries and a little bit first time mom. As old as i am, i remember feeling very similar emotions when my daughter was born. Trust me on this, though. In a few months, you are going to be grateful for your MIL's help and attention. Whatever you do, hold on to your patience, and don't burn any bridges. What you need to do first is inform her that the next few weekends are going to be family bonding time between you, your fiance, and your son. Things have been sort of crazy the last several weeks and you need some downtime together as a family. Also, point out that with flu season around the corner you are going to start limiting his contacts and time spent in public. He's too young to be exposed to fall and winter bugs if you can help

Then, when she comes to your home unannounced and uninvited you have to learn to tell her firmly, but politely, no. This isn't a good day for you. Why don't you call me next week, and maybe we can plan something. If she wants to take your son, you say, not today. This is my time with my son. You just have to learn to be assertive with her so that she is clear about your boundaries. When it comes to her friends, those are her people to show off her grandson to. It would be different if she were butting in with your family and friends, but she should be able to crow with her own people. That does not mean she gets to hand off your son to them. Again, you are limiting contacts for his protection. Say..."Please do not let people hold Liam right now. He might get sick with all the bugs going around this time of year."

In a few months when your baby is more active, you are really going to need a break. Won't you be glad to know you have someone you can trust, and who loves him, to pick up the slack? She will be so pleased that you asked. She just needs to back off a bit so you can grow into your mom shoes and let that happen.

[Fyre]

Grow a backbone.