How do I tell a friend I self-mutilate?

[Snow Whites Poison Bite]

For roughly 4 years I've been self-harming. I got so called 'help' for it back in April (my parents found out), and I stopped for a while, but it's starting to happen again (I don't want to tell my parents, they'll put me back in therapy which didn't help me at all) and I'm scared. I have this urge to tell my friend (we'll call him Roger), about it but every time I try it just... doesn't happen.

I know why I think he's the only one I can tell and that's because he lives in a different state (moms friends son. We keep in touch through facebook and text) so I know I won't have to see what his reaction is when I tell him, and I don't have to see him afterwards to see anything left. I just don't know HOW to tell him through the facebook/text thing.

My situation seems really conflicting to me. Lately I haven't been sleeping very well so I'll end up texting him early in the morning (Roger just doesn't seem to sleep naturally. He's kind of like the energizer bunny) when I'm just absolutely terrified and usually right after or before I self-harm.

Any advice on how I should bring it up and tell him?

Oh, and please don't lecture me on how 'self-harm is bad' (I know this), and don't answer if you haven't experienced it (I'm a strong believer that if you haven't self-harmed you can't understand the position I'm in). I'm terrified of what's going on, so I don't need anyone telling me what I'm doing is wrong and ****ed up and I need to get help. I did (three times), and that didn't help in the least. Therapy doesn't work on everyone, and I'm one of those people. All I need is some advice on how to tell 'Roger'.

[1stFlightNC]

My advice is to cut your wick off, that should slow you down a bit lol

[Johnson]

Suck it up. Obviously you're depressed which is why you turn to self-harm, which isn't the right way to go...But that's a lecture for another day.

Suck it up and tell him. Either he accepts it or he doesn't.

[thatoneguy]

Be blunt. Like if one day you're talking about how a guy got hit by a car, just out of nowhere say "Roger I cut myself.. and I like it." My ex cut my name into her leg and it was hot so I think Roger would like it too

[Andi]

well, when i told my friend she said i was being a drama queen and that if i didn't stop right away, that she would tell my parents, of course i didn't stop, but you don't want to hear my pathetic story. so i am experienced in this, send him a text saying "I need to tell you something, but first i need to know that i can trust you" and after he replies "i cut myself" and then, after his next reply, just go with the flow.

Best Wishes