Checking your boyfriend's twitter.. Do you think I have the right to check?

[BeautifulVixen]

Recently I have asked my bf if I could see his twitter password to see how serious we are in our relationship. He got upset about me asking for his password so I assumed that there is something that he was hiding. So in this case I checked his twitter timeline to see what was going on. & I saw that he was flirting with other girls and was trying to meet up with them. We are both still young, im 18 & he's 20. By looking at his twitter timeline I can see that his DM (direct messages) were full of him conversing with these girls. In the past we have had issues with random girls that he flirt with online and meeting up with them. I believe that he is just addicted to socializing and flirting. He doesn't know that I have already seen a glimpse of what he has been about. This is extremely stressful and I am going to finally let him know what I've seen today once he get off work. If he doesn't let me have his password or show me that he's going to stop then today will be my last day being with him, I can not continue with this type of relationship. But before I tell him about looking into his twitter do you think that I have the right to check? or do you think im doing too much?

[Caleb]

You're doing fine.
It means something to trust someone.
If he won't show you it's because he knows things are on there he wouldn't want you to see.
And how an you be addicted to flirting? He just doesn't want a serious relationship. Drop em like 'tatoes!

[Brianna]

You have every right to check and if he is flirting with other girls you don't deserve that

[Gabriela]

Well, firstly, I think it is weird to ask for their password. Maybe it upset him because it looks like you don't trust him? But if you don't trust him then it's probably best to end it. However, I think it's perfectly normal to look at him twitter account so it's fine to tell him that. Personally I think if you can't trust him on something like twitter, then it's best to end it and find someone who you don't need to worry about flirting etc. hope this helps,

[piinkQuest]

Of course you're doing the right thing!! I do it all the time! Lol

[Sans Deity]

Well, while you were correct in his activities, I still don't think you have a right to demand someone's twitter passwords or anything else like that. If you don't trust your boyfriend to the point where you need his password to prove he's not lying, then it's not a good relationship and you should get out of it anyway.

I hate this "Well you should let me check because you shouldn't have anything to hide" argument because people should have a right to their privacy regardless. For example, should the government be able to demand access to your house to search for illegal drugs or guns or anything else whenever they wish? I mean, if you have nothing to hide, then it shouldn't be an issue, right?

So, while you were right in your suspicions and he did have something to hide in THIS case, I still don't think someone should be condemned for not giving up their privacy under the premise "Well if you have nothing to hide you shouldn't have any worries then"

[D R]

No he shouldn't give you his password(s),you aren't married and even then you are entitled to a certain amount of privacy and no you really shouldn't have spied on him by checking his twitter, that means you also can't be trusted.

I think YOU have trust issues and there are relationship problems which have nothing to do with twitter...

No he shouldn't be flirting with those other girls that is hurtful and disrepectful to you and your relationship.

[Antst]

Sans Deity is 100% right.

It is never OK to ask for a password of any kind. We all deserve personal space. On Facebook, in email, and on Twitter, we have conversations with people. It would not be OK to insist on hearing all of your boyfriend's conversations with his friends, so it is not OK to snoop through his email and social media accounts. Being in a relationship does not mean that we give up all of our freedom and privacy.

It is really wrong when people say "if there's nothing to hide, you'll show me." I don't want my partner overhearing private conversations I have with friends about my insecurities, or their relationship problems, or whatever. No one has the right to control someone else by monitoring him/her all the time.

The thing is, you KNOW that he flirts and that he has met up with girls in the past. So getting into his Twitter won't tell you anything you don't already know.

It sounds to me like you are delaying a difficult decision. You know he is messing around behind you back. Dump him. Don't waste any more time. But leave his Twitter password alone.

[Sue B]

Your just a girlfriend. Where does any of his privacy come into effect? Maybe if you were married, you might have the right, but think about it...a password is personal and private. He needs to dump you and get on with his life