I am 18 and have no friends and no life?

[Jack]

I currently live in the middle of the country side and feel isolated and alone, I don't feel I have any friends at all, I use to go to college and had some people I could relate to but now that I have left It seems near impossible to get to met them due to something coming up in their busy schedules.
I wouldn't say I was completely unbearable as a person, I don't dress or act strange in public.
At the start of school I had friends but as soon as I got to year 10 I made the awful mistake to lose friend ship with someone to hang out with another group of people which later turned out that I didn't fit in with them, so most of my lunch period was spend alone in a class just drawing away, constantly checking the door to see if anybody would see me alone.
I would always feel embarrassed walking to class as it was just me walking on my own, not me with about 5 other people talking about what to do over break and what to do with each other over the weekend.
school was hell for me like so many others in the world..
College on the other hand was good I made friends and was ok but then the year finished and so did my friendships, second year was exactly the same story.
So here I am typing this, 18 years old no friends and no girlfriend.
And the worst thing has to be Facebook I don't use it that often but using it today has made me write this.
seeing everyone at freshers parties and people conversing everyday, just makes me feel more and more apart from the world.
I wake up turn the tv and sit, play on the xbox and then just go to bed.
I have sometimes thought of ending my own life as I feel its not worth living if you don't have any friends to help you through tough times,
My dad constantly reminds me of when he was young and used to go on holidays with his mates and the fun they use to have and it makes me feel as though he is almost ashamed of me.
Well most of you wont read this, but If you can put up with my drivel please tell me what to do.

jack

[Lea]

Join the club.

[Person]

Aww you'll be okay *sympathy hug* just get out more, maybe go and join something in the local community...

[Troll]

lol I have like 10 so called friends on facebook. yeah "so called" because i don't hang out with them. they smoke, drink, and do other stuff I don't. I prefer to sit behind my computer and I also go to the gym at least 4 times a week. im 19.

[Brad]

im a teenager and saying that you probably think i have hormones but i dont act like that i lost a lot of freinds with the new addition to highschool and my grades dropped dramatically. I used to get straight a's and now i get at least one f every term. Im a loner and have not really been social or seen to many people outside school since grade 7(im almost done with year 8 now btw). There was this girl who i was crazy about and asked out heaps and we were starting to become freinds but then everybody told me she had left the school. She was more similar to me than anybody i know and i couldnt stop crying about her because she was my only real freind at school. At that time i cut myself and even considered suicide but i kept saying to myself"you can do this you will have kids one day amd all this misery will have made you a good father and husband". Now ive recovered and the girl didnt leave after all but we rarely speak anymore. Its odd and sad. I guess im saying that even though this isnt about girls i understand what your going through and you shouldnt commit suicide because one day you will make it to the top if you just beleive in yourself".

[Liam]

Go to university, find some work etc. Those are the main ways of meeting new friends. Its such a simple thing to do yet people who are in your situation don't consider it

[A]

Hey, i totally sympathise with u. I think ul find that many of us are in the same boat to a degree. You need to go and either get a job (paid or voulenteer) or join an art class or something. There are always people who do this type of thing just to meet friends. Google to see if theres any sites dedicated to finding like minded friends and if there isnt... look into setting one up!! Im quite a loner myself as im not on the same wave length as alot of people!! Im into culture, history and all things you could class as boring and I always have been!! Its hard to find friends who accept you for who you are if they are so different. I have a few "pals" but only 3 who i call my friends. None are like me!! Good luck things will get better! Just try and concentate on bettering yourself and making your life what you want it to be. company will follow x

[Anna]

Are you not going to university yourself? One of my friends was in the exact same position you are now in, I told him something and I will tell you the same. You feel alone and that no one wants to spend time with you. How can people remember to ask you out places when you never let them know you're there. If distance is the problem then go out into town and get a job, you will have colleagues who may become friends. On the other hand you could join a club, it's a fast and easy way to make new friends. Just get out there and make sure you're living the life you have to it's fullest. The only one who can change your situation is you.

[Rachel]

So sorry you are going through this. Feeling alone is never fun!
I was bullied all throughout my middle school and high school years. When I got to high school, I got injured really badly and had to have 3 surgeries, which made me miss the last 3 years of high school. During that time, every friend I had abandoned me, and the bullies continued to send me mean and hateful messages and texts. I always felt so alone and so un-cared about.

I am telling you this because I am now 20 years old, and I am the strongest, most confident girl that I never imagined I would ever be. All the bullying, the being alone, made me who I am today, and I am proud of that. It was horrible at the time, but things do get better. This is just a difficult time in your life.

Push through it, embrace it, use it for something good. I used my pain for my art and photography.

Someday you will find true friends and you will have a different life. This is a time to learn from your struggles and build your strength up! I don't know if you're religious or not, but I will say that for me, praying when I felt alone and hopeless always made me feel better.

I hope that things will get better for you, Jack. Do not let people get you down. They are not worth your time or energy. Keep your head up! Find something that makes you happy and is an escape from the bullshit. You will be okay. You just have to push through and be strong. Someday... You will be rewarded and thankful for what you have went through.

Best wishes,
Rachel

[Paul]

Hey Jake, things will get better.

people try to make their lives sound amazing on facebook but take it all with a massive chunk of salt. As you get older you'll find people to socialise with.

Look to take part in some activities away from where you usually hang out, new peopl, new town you can be the person you want to be.

Don't stress it's a part of turning into an adult.

reading some of the answers given by other people it heart warming to see decent people showing genuine care for another human who isn't feeling the best.