Am I lesbian or just bi? Complicated situation. Please help!!?

[Naomi]

I know what the definitions of Lesbian and Bi-sexuality are. I've been wondering about whether I'm bi or straight starting from December 2011-May 2012. In May I came with the answer that I'm Bi(with help of friends and looking up tons of information.) I'm currently 16 years old(I know age doesn't matter so much when figuring this out) but I still have time to figure this out. I've always been interested in girls(as I reflect on my years in Middle school) but I would always get with guys when I know they liked me just to make them happy, I didn't know what I was doing. I never thought about how I felt when it came to getting in relationships with guys. I would always become focased(not in love) on/with them after a while when in the relationship. But now as a teenager, I go to my high school and recently I've been checking out girls NON STOP. I haven't checked a guy out in a long time. I don't find guys attractive anymore(cute faces not attracted though, but not the body) but I find girls attractive physically and I would love to be with a girl and do anything with her, if you get what I mean. But guys, only their face but I don't really want to be with them.. I'd feel mean if a guy comes up to me and say they like me but if they ask me out and I say no. But they don't have what I want... Recently, since school started, theres cute Asian exchange students at my school(I love Asians so much) and I'm focased/interested in them like crazy when I see them(refering to guys but girls too, but seems more promising with the guys) but it doesn't seem like its going to go anywhere because they know english but not that well and I haven't had a single conversation with one :'(. Though theres two guys that I could get to know, but doesn't seem like it may happen, maybe with one guy but idk..But they're only going to be here for this school year.. Anywho, theres that situation, and then the girl situation.. I have a good friend that I've known for years, and she's super flirty with me and we had romantic things happen before when we were in middle school together.(nothing R rated. only holding hands and she'd always touch/hold my cheeks and now[2012] make kissy faces with me and tease me with jokes[recently had surgery on ankle so I have a Roll About/scooter looking thing.] But she helps me out with getting things so its just jokes.) I think she's cool, pretty too, but I'd always get SUPER jealous when she'd talk to other girls and be flirty with them(and I know she's bi--told me in class.) And I have alot of girl crushes this year, but I'm realistic so I won't let it go further until I know the girl would like me back. I'm trying to figure out how to start talking to them because they're not in my social group(not mutual friends even), I'm a social person and can make friends easily, but if I get a crush on someone, it becomes SUPER obvious especially if I talk to them.. And I'm scared to put myself out of those bondaries and get sad because the girl wouldn't feel the same(if that would happen.) And on top of it all, I'm technically in a relationship with my bf/ex from this summer. Only saying the bf part because its complicated and still on Facebook. We only broke up because he wasn't being clear with me about stuff and totally confused on how to talk to me/answer questions(complicated situation, I'll explain more if needed) and its a long distance relationship. But we haven't talked in awhile, but me and him are friends for sure, but idk if I want to get with him again, he isn't a girl, and I only want to be with a girl. I can't talk it over with my parents because when I tried to tell me mom about the lesbian dreams I've been having, she won't believe me or accept it. And its just impossible to talk to my dad because he's a drunk(parents are both in their 50's) and TOTALY OLD SCHOOL... So they won't adapt to the world today. So I'm doomed. I have a sister(age 36) I talk to, but she's usually busy with work and I just want answers from people that don't know me personally right now(so no connections and it'll be blunt.) No other family members. I talked with my therapist about this, but she said she can't label me as anything and I'm the one to truely figure it out, because she doesn't know much about the LBGT stuff anyway, so thats why I go here. I was looking up the other questions like these, but nothing like my situation, after series of scrolling...) So, am I lesbian? Or just Bi and totally confused right now? I just need some outside point of views to help me think it through. Thanks so much for reading all this and for the advice you give!

[Geo]

Try them both out for a few more years and when you are older you can make a better guess!
Just have fun and be safe!

[ashley]

Just by reading this, it looks like you are a lesbian. I have never had a boyfriend. I know that some boys liked me in the past, but I kept friend zoning them (note: it didn't help that my dad was strict about me dating boys). I could not figure out why I couldn't see them as more than just friends. I just went through the same predicament that you described last month and I realized that no matter how much I look at boys, I can't feel attracted to them. Maybe as a friend, but never more. I have also had lesbian dreams and I really liked them. So I just told myself that I'm probably gay. The thing was, I thought I was straight, not bi, so it was kind of a stretch for me, but in the end, it's alright. I am 17, never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and I'm gay. I hope this helps!