I have no friends anymore?

[rhi]

I am in year 9 and am a girl, and don't really have friends. I am gifted, so i feel more grown up than everyone else- I don't like energy drinks or parties much, and am smart so a lot of people get jealous.

I love jokes and arent actually that quiet! Im always talking but not annoying. I used to have friends, but they all didn't like me in the end. Heaps of peOple talk about me behind my back so now I hang out with the extremely unpopular kids. But even those kids don't sit with me anymore and this one friend who my mum hates moved schools. I can't move schools, and I try to stay happy a lot.

I do see a psychiatrist weekly and I think I stay "happy" because I don't want to end up depressed like I used to be. I won't ever self harm or anything, but I am starting to realize I can't find a reason to smile anymore. I feel like I have won the lotto when I get a Facebook friend request from a stranger, at least I'm not alone. I tried talking to my mum or a teacher but nothing seems to be happening. I have a lot of family issues and one major one happened this week so I'm a little shaken up.

I do have few people who are okay to me, and I often buy gifts for people I care about and who are nice to me. I don't feel like I am being used- it's a mutual friendship and I don't get heartbroken until its too late: I bought someone a gift and thry tried to pretend they didn't have a party I wasn't invited to.

Should I just stay focused on school work And just keep making it through high school or do something?

[Rachel]

at first i thought you said you were 9 lmao but i felt like if i had no friends when i was in 9th grade too. stay focused on school work for now. things will get better later on during your high school years. trust me :-)

[john]

Life will get better. Anyone who was ever great went through great suffering. You feel isolated. Thats because you are clever. Do some art and I will watch for your work in twenty years. Good luck.

[Becky]

I'm in year nine too and i know how hard it is to stay Friends with people, you should be nice to people show respect and stay focused if you have a school guidance helper or someone like that then speak to them if not then tell another teacher and maybe if your allowed get a pet they make you smile allot hope i helped xx

[Samantha]

High school can be hard! I didn't have friends in high school for a long time and at that time I felt extremely sad and lonely.To top it all off because I was always sitting by myself I got bullied as well. I did use to sit with a group but then found out they talked about me behind my back and really didn't want me in the group. But all I did was Focus of my school work and tried my hardest to smile and not let anybody get to me. I believe things happen for a reason and if those people didn't stay with you then don't force them I'm sure there's good friends out there for you somewhere!! Think positive thoughts!

[Christos K]

First you seem to have some issues with your self...you are far to young to be depressed...I am a teacher so let me tell you this, most times that a child is not wanted in a group of friends it's not jealousy of the others, but the problem comes from the child it self because it thinks it's better than the others... The way you describe your self seem like you think you are somewhat better ( smarter,more mature, etc), maybe you have to re-think of how you behaved inside the class or the group of friends you lost...but no matter what all people may pass some period that all those that around them don't fit to be very good friends...don't stress your self and don't worry, things tend to go better, and I believe they will.dont replace life with social networks...that is a road to ruin....and friends don't need gifts to love you...all they want is to show them mutual love and respect...

[Primavera]

Year nine... So your 14 or 15.... Am I right? I'm 13 and I have no friends either!!! I'm so sad about it!! I'm goth\emo as well...! And I think I'm more mature than everyone else!!! I think you should just wait and find someone who you have stuff in common with!! Join clubs with your interests!! Talk to people. You have so many different years to make friends, it will be worth it when a great friend comes along...!

[Rachel]

Stay focused on school work. You still have time in your life to meet great people and friends. For now maybe you can join a club or fun activities and find a new hobby to take your mind of friends, problems at home and along the way you may find real friends who like you for who you are. Don't worry about having many friends in HS or being popular. Just focus on getting the best grades bc once you graduate HS thats where your real journey begins. You can go away to college join clubs, stay on campus, play on the school team, find a part time job even party once in a blue and most special meet people and develop friendships with people from all walks of life! You have so many opportunities to meet great people stay focused and be patient!