Reaching out the girl he cheated on me with...good or bad idea?

[BackwoodsBeautyQueen]

Hey everyone,

So my then boyfriend (now ex) cheated on my with his ex-girlfriend. After we broke up, he started leading both of us on telling me that he wanted me in his future and wanted to get back together; at the same time telling her that he wanted her to be his girlfriend and that she meant the world to him. Understandably, that girl and I didn't get along the greatest during this time. Though we've never actually met and we've never actually been exposed to one another (hung out in same group, been around each other, etc), it was made clear when we ran into each other a few times that we had it out for one another.

That was 8 months ago. Though in some ways I'm still healing, throughout these last few months, I've been able to really let go of what happened between my ex and I and have found myself moving on. Now, I'm trying to get my life back together-pick up the pieces of that relationship while building new relationships with new people, trying new things, getting secure in my life. Lately, I've been thinking about the girl he cheated on me with. I did bad talk her to my closer friends and I did shoot her some dirty looks back when I was still hurt by what had happened. Needless to say, she did do the same to me. However, now that I'm over everything, I've realized that her and I, I think, could have been really good friends. Based on her facebook and how other people have talked about her, we seem to have a TON in common. To this day-8 months later-people have told me that she still doesn't like me. Maybe we'll never become friends, but I feel the need to address what happened and to make peace with her. Let her know that looking back, I don't so much blame her about what happened, but blame my ex. I feel bad that she feels that we're enemies.

Do you think it would be a good idea to reach out to her via facebook message or no? Out here, we all have strong beliefs in standing our ground and not letting anyone mess with us. What can I say? Out here, we're tough and put people in their places-especially when it comes to boyfriends and girlfriends. I'm afraid this will be her reaction...but maybe it will be worth it or maybe it won't turn out like this. Suggestions?

Thanks

[Summer]

She probably don't like you cause she's still hurting.....or she could not like u cuz she thinks u don't like her....talk to her and telll her that theres no hard feelings and apologize for slagging her of and say u were just upset or something
What's the worse that could happen??? She could say p*** off or just ignore u that's it...... Hope this helps

[john]

sure why not its not her fault hes the dick