I don't wanna love anymoree?

[AmberBiersackBVB]

Alright, well the question is a bit extreme. I was just hoping that I could get some good advice from people who know their stuff. So, over the summer of last year, I started talking to this guy who goes to my school. We talked pretty much all day, everyday and we had so much in common. He was pretty much exactly what I'm looking for in a guy. Fast forward about two months after we initially begin talking, we start dating. (We were each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend cuz we were in 7th grade) We went to the same school (still do to this day) but never really talked. Remember how I said we had pretty much everything in common? Yeah, well that sadly included extreme shyness. We hugged maybe around 5 times and said hey here and there, but never any more than that. We've been doing all our talking over Facebook. One day, he had to delete his account. We were still too shy to talk to each other, so later on that month I decided to break up with him because there's no point in dating if you aren't going to talk and I was just too scared to make the first move. Before we broke up, I had this other friend who's the ex of my best friend. They broke up about a month before me and my ex did. Around Thanksgiving, we start going out. I didn't understand at the time that was such a horrible thing to do, and I still don't today, but my old best friend and I are still best friends. Also, me and her ex still go out today. We are complete opposites, and we're very in love. We couldn't be happier <3 The thing is though... I never lost feelings for my ex. I'm honestly still in love with him too, even though it's been over a year since we last talked. I see him everyday in the hallways, and every time I do I get butterflies and my heart starts to pound. Whenever he sees me, I see him quickly look away and try disguising his little smirk. I don't know why he smirks every time he sees me, but some people say it's because he's happy to see me and still likes me (which I don't believe.

Alright, there was that long back story. Now to get to my real question:
How can I stop liking my ex? I'm extremely happy with my current boyfriend.
I feel so dirty knowing that he thinks he's the only guy in my heart (and I want him to be), but in actuality he only has half of it. I don't wanna live with this guilt and shame anymore. Yes, I'm in the 8th grade and he's only in 9th, but we truly believe what we have is real. (Hey, my teacher told us that her parents have been together since they were in middle school, it can happen! xD) It doesn't help that everyone says my ex and I are perfect together, and my boyfriend and I aren't right for each other. I understand that I have so much life to live that I shouldn't be worrying about this right now, but I just feel like my boyfriend's the one. Yes, he's only my 2nd but he has had sooo many girlfriends before, yet he loves me the most out of all of them (If you knew him, you would understand)

So community, what should I do?

[Crystal]

I've always believed you can't love more than one person at once. When you love someone, you give them your entire heart. There is no room for anyone else. The feelings you have for your ex are those "closure" feelings. Things ended abruptly between you two and you might still have some unanswered questions and thoughts about what could have been if one of you made the move.

I dated a guy for a year, found out he was dating a few other girls, and confronted him. He confessed he couldn't give me everything because I was white, and he wanted someone from his own race, so I broke up with him. I still loved him though. Then I met my new boyfriend, and I felt like I was in love with two people. My ex and him. Over time, though, I realized there was nothing left with my ex. He was the same person. He was still a cheater, and I was still white. The same probably goes for your ex. If you two were to get back together, he'd probably still be the same shy, quiet person as before.

Opposites attract. I'll be the first to tell you that. My current boyfriend is the COMPLETE opposite of me, and we've been together a year. I've never been happier. You just have to think things through and realize how happy your boyfriend makes you. You can't help who you fall for, but you can choose whether or not to continue to love someone. Don't think about your ex, don't wonder about him or how he's doing. If people try to tell you that you and your ex are perfect together, tell them you don't wanna hear it. You will get over him and move on. If you feel like this current guy is the ONE, give him everything. Don't leave room for your ex in your heart.