My best friend ditches me for her boyfriend?

[glittercandy]

My best friend has always been a little bit TOO boy crazy. Even when we were younger, and she'd have silly boyfriends, she'd ditch me for them. I remember once I told her a secret and told her not to tell anyone, then her 'boyfriend' came up to me and asked me about it. And she'd always get them the biggest, best presents (not trying to sound superficial, I don't really care about that). But now, recently, she's ditched me twice for her boyfriend. We arranged to go to the fun fare together, she said she's call me if she went. Then I had a look on my facebook, and there were pictures of her and her boyfriend at the fun fare. I asked her about it and she said "oh it was really last minute, too short notie for you". Guys, the fun fare is literally less then a minute from my house. I can see it from my house, it's like at the end of my street. Then last week we arranged to go shopping together. I text her, an hour before we were going to meet, to make sure she was still okay to meet at that time. She text me back saying "oh sorry I can't going to the zoo". And I was like, so if I hadn't of text you first, then you would have 'forgotten' to have told me and I would have been waiting there like a lemon? Then I found out that's it's not just a family day out, her boyfriend is going with her. So she didn't have the decency to tell me, until an hour before, when she told me she arranged it last night? She said again she would have invited me, but it was short notice and there isn't enough room. Hmmm, okay then. She's been best friends with me for 7 years and she's been with him for 7 months. And I'm not jealous, he's lovely, and I'm happy for her. But I'm sick of me putting her first, and then I always come last to her boyfriend? And before, we we were going on a girly day out, she invited him and his friend to join us. Urgh. What should I do? If I stopped being her friend, it would be awkward, because we are in like the same classes/friendship group and all that.

[crookedmoon209]

Usually I'd say that in a new relationship, a person may be infactuated, therefore forget to balance their social life out and all, but it's been 7 months and she knows what she's doing. She's being a bad friend to you. A good friend would love spending time with her boyfriend, but make sure not to only spend time with him and leave her friends out. I know this because I have a boyfriend that I'm completely in love with and I still spend time with my friends. It's all about a healthy balance. I think you should try talking to her first and if it does not work, you can remain friends with her, just don't make plans with her. She may ask you about it one day and say she misses you. At that point just talk to her again, ya know.

[Mightyshop779]

Grow up & move on

[Soup Nazi]

You call this girl your best friend? Anyone who would invite her boyfriend and his friend to your "girly day out" without asking you first has no consideration for your feelings. It honestly sounds as though she couldn't care less about you. Maybe when she breaks up with him she will come to you (until she meets someone new, that is), but I hope you don't stick around long enough for that to happen.