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mirabelle · 11-09-2012, 10:33 AM

im a 13 year old girl living with my 2 married parents

when my dad was in the shower i looked on his phone and there were loads of messages(on his facebook)he sent to women like"love u babes xxx" and "i want the best for you xx" and "i will always find a place for you in my heart xxx".i was so shock i couldnt read more.i know it was wrong of me to look at his messages but....

when i was little my dad cheated on my mum and they separeted.i was really horrible because my mum went into a deopression(shes bipolar)and she had to go to hospital.

after a year they got back together and now,im 13,and i find out he doing it again!

i really dont wanna tell my mum and i dont have any family in this country!

WHAT SHOULD I DO??!please help

P.s.i took pics of the messagrs(they're in my secret folder on my phone)so i have proof.

no answers like "stop snooping around your dad's phone!" or "this is an adult thing"

also its not family or good friend because i looked at her profile and its a woman in her twenties that live in the same town as us!(weve only been living her 3 years!)

i know i shouldnt have looked at the messages but i did...

also im not confident enough to tell my mum because i love her so much i dont want her to feel hurt!!!

btw mat i point out he is a 50 year old methodist(christian priest)!!!

Gbaby · 11-09-2012, 10:42 AM

Confront your dad and tell him to fix it or ur tellin ur mom

Lydia · 11-09-2012, 10:42 AM

Tell your mum I would be gutted if I was her and I knew you'd known before she found out. I'm 14 and my parents split up and he cheated on her, she was and is still devastated. Her new boyfriends daughter knew tht her mum was leaving her dad and don't say anything and she told me that if anyone did that to her (find out and not tell her) than she would never forgive them. Just call her to you room and talk to her tell her what you know and if your embarrassed to say you went through his phone then tell her you went to play a game on it and this message poped up BUT tell her the truth how would u feel of your boyfriend or future husband chears on you and your daughter know but doesn't tell you? And you might of got it wrong he may be innocent!

Joanne · 11-09-2012, 10:42 AM

Your father should be ashamed of himself. Have a family meeting and show bith ur parents what u saw. Your mom shouldnt be Tricked by alousy man like this. Thinking that he is a priest, he is a disgrace to God.

Latoya · 11-09-2012, 10:42 AM

Tell her u have to show her something and show her let her decide and i would let him know i know his cheating and tell him would he want a man to waste ur time like he's doing ur moms its not right to cheat and don't u ever except that from a man

frazzled · 11-09-2012, 10:42 AM

Oh dear child. I am sorry that you have found out such a horrible secret and the awful place it puts you in. You must consider a couple things....do you think your mom knows and is choosing to ignore it? If so then it is her decision as an adult. Many women choose to stay in unhealthy relationships. Though not logical, they do. Now if you believe she does not know ....then maybe you should. I think it is very brave and good of you. Yet be ready for your Dad to be angry and your mom to break down. You seem like a smart kid so I am sure you will be there to help her through....just know it won't be easy. Doing the right thing is always hard. Maybe a friend of hers can help you. Take care and be strong brave child.

shOrtie · 11-09-2012, 10:42 AM

Why do you keep reposting this over and over again? You've been at it for months.