Am I gay/bi in denial!?!?!?

[Brandon]

I asked this quedtion a few day's ago, but left out critical detail's

I'm now a 16 yrs. old male. I know I'm attracted to girl's but I only seem to be 'just a friend' to them. I fantise about girl's, but sometime's out of nowhere when I don't even want to I can fantasie about cuddling with guy's. I'm alway's emotional. I'm a huge failure when it come's to girl's. But I'm starting to wonder maybe I'm just bi ir gay all together. I think some guy's are 'beautiful', and I don't know why. I refer to myself as 'beautiful' when I'm feeling down. Also, I think I'm interested in the gay/bi ligestyle as well, lately I've been watching "coming out" video's, I've been doing research on the topic alot as well, also I'm part of this gay group on Facebook, that I know I want to leave but when ever I want to click "Leave Group" I find myself back to my home homepage still inside the group. Also, People say I have some feminine trait's such as I stay locked to the mirror 24/7, I cry very easily, I even admit I walk with a slight twist, and with my chest out. I'm cool with guy's and girl's when it come's to friendship. And for the past 8 month's or so, I've been taking 'time off' from girl's to do some 'soul searching' (or alot of thinking), and can't figure out a thing. I've asked my Mom and Dad, and 2 of my closest friend's if I'm gay/bi but their answer's are alway's illusive. Am I in denial?!? Am I closeted. If so, what's a good way to come out to the rest of my friend's without creating a big drama scene.

[William]

You are 16. It doesn't matter. Wait until you are at least 34 before having questions about your sexuality. In the meantime, your job is to get good grades and find your lifework so we don't have to support you on welfare.

[Lewis]

If you find guys attractive in real life (walking through the street and some celebs) then you are gay. However that is only if you don't feel the same way about girls. You have got to question yourself and be 100 percent honest because if you are not then you are in denial. Do you find guys and girls attractive in the same way? You said that you fantasize about girls. But are you attracted to ones in real life?

If this is too confusing for you then you should just go with what you like.It is no good asking other people. It is up to you to come to terms with your sexuality. So if you like a girl then follow it. The same with a guy. then it will all come clear with time.

About the coming out topic. There is no need to worry. You should not come out to anyone until you know for sure. The best way to come out to family is to tell them or write a letter and put it somewhere that you know they will look. Once you have your family on your side. The rest will just come to you.

[amanda.rose]

Being a teenager is hard enough. being gay only complicated things. If the thought of being with men turns you on, you are gay. Accept it. the sooner you do the sooner you can get on with it and enjoy your new found life. luckily you are in an age where it is "more " accepting that 50 years ago.