Her parents won't let her see me, what do I do?

[Ryan]

I met a girl this summer at the fair with my brother and her friend, and was instantly attracted to her. I didn't see any sign that she was interested in me, but apparently she was. She had a boyfriend at the time, but dumped him immediately after meeting me. I'm 16 and she's 14 by the way. I couldn't take my eyes off of her, she has the most beautiful features and the cutest personality. After the fair, we went back to her house for around 30 minutes, and we played the piano and talked for a bit, pretty casually, but when I left, she just stood at the window and watched me leave, that's when I fell in love. Here's the problem though, I live in London, and she lives in Toronto, and I haven't seen her since. She added me on Facebook and we've been texting almost everyday for months, but I still haven't seen her again. She invited me a month ago to visit her in Toronto, so I worked my *** off all month so I could pay for a train ticket to see her, which I bought for quite a pile of cash, but literally a day before I left, she said her parents wouldn't let her see me. I was completely heartbroken. I had gone through so much just so I could see her face to face again and it was all ruined. I ended up going anyway and stayed with my brother, but the weekend was just awful. I felt like crying. I think about her every minute. I don't know why her parents won't let her see me, when I met them I made a very good impression in my eyes. I'm a good guy, I work hard, and don't drink or do drugs. I've always respected people, especially women. I treat this girl like a God, I don't even think of her sexually, it's all emotional. She told me she didn't even know guys like me existed. I'm in such distress, I can't stop thinking about her. I dream of her every night. I know she feels the same way about me, but she said that if we try to have a relationship it will hurt us both too much and she's afraid of that. If her parents didn't stop her from seeing me, we would be so in love. What do I do? It's killing me. I'm never happy anymore. Why don't her parents want her to see me? What do I do so I can have a relationship with her, she's perfect in every way. All help and advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you very much.

[Help]

If you really love her, you should not let her parents get in the way.

[Amber]

You should talk to her parents them. Tell them what kind of guy you or and that you would never hurt her. Be under their rules. You can spend time with her at her house only when her parents are supervising, when you go out to the movies be back at 9:00, etc. Show her parents that your a great student. That you do well in school and everything great about you. Show respect to her parents. When you greet them bring them flowers and present yourself in a orderly fashion. Dress suitable for a young man. No sagging the pant, skull t- shirts or anything like that. The way to her is through her parents approval.

[Tony Moorgate]

Well, either 1. you didn't give her parents as good an impression of you as you thought, or 2. she's only using this as an excuse to end it (while pretending to still like you), perhaps because, as she said, she's afraid that the relationship will hurt you and so she's decided against it.

The only way to find out is by calling her and asking to explain why. If possible, ask to have a talk with one of her parents so that they themselves can give their version of the story. After all, if you're ntot aware of whatever they may have against you, how are you supposed to improve? Asking the primary source is the surest means of doing it and the problem may be something you're not even fully aware of. Bottom line, asking never hurts.

If, however, she comes up with an excuse not making sense or if none of her parents ever "happen" to available for a talk, then most likely it is the second scenario (which I'm already strongly inclined to believe) in which case, as hard as this can be, you should move on. If she is indeed using this an excuse to stop this relationship from proceeding, understand that you deserve someone who is willing to take the emotional risk for the sake of you (and not just you for her); in other words, you deserve better. Good luck

[Zafiro]

Wow I so would love a guy like you I know how you feel same happened to me when I was 16 but the guy was 28. I'm now 23 and kinda lonely just from bf to bf if you really like this girl and she feels the same do what your heart tells you even if it means the parents will dislike you more. You live once don't let them stop you from true happiness I let my own family (well mostly my sisters) fuc* up my realationship that was back in 2009. Now its 2012 I'm 23 and don't even really have a man all because of my sisters. Learn from my mistake fuc* them live your life. Go get her prove to them you love her.