My girlfirend left me and we have two young children?

[Paul]

My and my ex partner was going out for over 6 years, we have a 6 year old and 6 month year old. Are relationship in past was rocky and we had arguments, she went behind my back and vice verus. , which stopped 2 years ago. These past month we had a baby, but she split with me. Over few month she sent me texts of how she still think about me everyday. I cook her dinner and we slept together over past few month. I play games with her and children. But 2 weeks she meet someone who lives 30miles away online through facebook. She changed her Facebook profile and photo. and says she with him to me. She shows no emmotion to me. Im 25 she 24. She meet this person who looks very old who 29 and doesnt look anything similar to me. I tried to say how feel but she doesnt have none of it. I dont know what to do. We there relationship work or is it a rebound? what should do as breaking my heart

[Coach Simon]

You write that you try to say how you feel, but clearly she knows how you feel, and your emotional dependency on her has cost you her respect. Stop telling her that you love her and sleeping with her. You clearly need to learn more about youself and about relationships - there are plenty of books out there, as there are on parenting. Marriage takes a lot of work, knwoledge, sacrifice, flexibility , etc., etc., so make the effort to learn about what it takes. Being madly in love is not enough.

Good Luck - maybe you can win her back, maybe not. But the most important people here are your children, aren't they?

[Eviey]

I do feel sorry for you! But if you really love her don't let her go and make sure your always nice to her, be careful that she doesn't stop you seeing your children! This guy could be someone she's trying to make you jealous with or maybe she does have feelings for him or maybe she just wants a break and is making sure your the one or maybe shes lost in her emotions and is very confused but as long as you know you love her and the love is strong she'll see this and will come back to you!
Best of luck!

[Nicole]

First of all you need to concentrate on making sure that your children are happy, taken care of, supported, and sees you often. Whether you and her remain a couple is not entirely up to you and how you feel. If she is no longer happy with you, you cannot make her be with you no matter how badly you want it. By cheating on each other in the past and having such a rocky relationship you have damaged the mist important part of your relationship, trust. I do believe that if you ever want to have a chance of getting her back you need to quit begging her back or trying to convince her that she should come back to you. Act as though you are moving on but do not get another girlfriend right now. By moving on, I mean making yourself happy. Work hard, do things that make you happy, be a good dad to your little ones, take them places. It is okay to let her k ow that you will always love and care for her but tell her that she needs to be happy. Her seeing you happy without relying on her to make you that way may be what it takes to compelling her to want to come back. If you were to get back together, you would need to start fresh and never throw the past up to each other again if it would ever have a chance of being a successful relationship. But there is always a chance that in the process of making yourself happy you realize that you are happier without her even if you do care about her. Sometimes two very good people just aren't good for each other, even if they do care for one anotherthey have a toxic relationship because they bring out the worst in each other.

[flying carpet]

Toxic relationships like this are created by yourself.You have been foolish and should have ended it years ago as it was doomed right back then by your behaviours.
I feel sorry for the kids caught up in your mess as they had no choice in all this and you both did !!
For Gods sake move on and get her out of your life.Its over so stop messing up.
Just make sure your kids are loved and cared for.