what should i do? my girlfriend is emotionally attached with somebody.?

[Bob]

We've been together for 4 years now. I'm working abroad and I left her last year to help my family and to save for our wedding. but we always communicate through skype. but sometimes I don't have time for her because of the time difference and with my schedules at work.4 months ago she had a new friend who's always there for her.the guy told her that he likes her and my girl said she have a boyfriend. she did not tell me that we had a problem and shes always crying because of how much she misses me.and then instead of telling me the problem, she's telling her problems about our relationship with this guy. now this guy likes her. he gives advice, takes her out, gives her presents and making her happy. now my girl is emotionally attached to him right now and she told me the truth 3 weeks ago and asked me some time and space to figure out if she still love me or not. instead of understanding her. i got angry of her. i said bad things to her, because I'm mad. and that's normal. She said its not healthy anymore and maybe we need to stop,but I did not agree because I love her so much. But everyday seems a nightmare, I'm so depressed, I cannot eat, i cannot concentrate with my work. I'm always crying and I keep questioning her about that issue, she told me everything i needed to know. they didn't had sex.they never kissed. they see each other but its not a date.they are always with group of friends. the guy calls her everyday. they are chatting on Facebook and shes very happy. She gave me her password and I do Sherlock Holmes. they had many pictures together and she smiles very happy like the way she smiles at me before. I'm so hurt and jealous. she feels sorry for what she did but admitted that she's still emotionally attached to this guy. but she stopped communicating with him because i asked her to stop.
I want to trust her again and make our love start again but everyday my mind is saying that shes not
telling me everything. I'm still crying and can't sleep.I want to forget the past but i'm so paranoid. i'm not angry with her anymore but I'm still angry about what she did. we are still together and I'm trying to win her heart back.. i always call her now and we always do skype every night. but i still need help because the past always ruin my day and i am afraid if i can't control it and get angry again with her.she will break up with me and leave me forever. we are in a long distance relationship and its very hard for me right now to be alone. I am always thinking that its all my fault and i pity myself of leaving her and not giving her all the love she deserves when we were still together. i need to finish my contract and i have 10 months more before i can see her again. please help. i don't know what to do. i know she still love me and i love her so much. but its really painful because of what she did. I am so depressed.

[friendly forever]

Just think which is prior. If you want girl friend.. just leave contract and if you want contract then try for a good another Girls.

Love seeks sacrifice, if you love her really let her be happy with that Guy. Decision is always yours and your decision is final... Good Luck

[Ashok]

It is a good thing that she stopped contacting the other guy once you asked her not to. This is a sign that she loves you and more she obeys you.
Since you are abroad she misses she needed attention that you gave but after 4 years relation if she still falls for a guy it was either she was not mature enough or the love was not always there.
Man up and say that you are sorry for doubting her , send her gifts from abroad it is ok if you mess your marriage savings a bit,tell her that you want to marry her soon.

Bottomline: Keep up your sherlock but don't make it obvious to her.Once you find that she truly is in love with you, kill the sherlock in you or move on. Be careful. All the best.

[Jericho26]

I know how you feel, Bob. My girlfriend left me about a month ago because of something like this. But at least your girlfriend is more honest and is willing to work things out with you. I would suggest that you try to get some leave from your job so you can go back and see her. She needs to see you. That's all she really wanted. But the more you keep in contact, the more she knows that you love her and care about her. You need to take some leave and get back to the states to see her. And I wouldn't feel to hopeless about your relationship. You say you left last year and it's October now. If she really wanted to cut it off, you two wouldn't have still been talking this long. She obviously really loves you, she's just lonely and I'm sure that she felt that you left her. But she's still in your life and that says a lot. It's been this long, I have a good feeling she'll wait for you when you come back. But again, try to take some leave and go see her. It'll be worth it.