Please give me your advice on what to do with this girl!! Please read?

[Nicholas]

Hi so I'm a senior in high school and I met this girl through a church event where we went to a mission trip in Virginia. She is a junior and goes to a different school in the same area. We didn't really talk while on the trip, because I didn't know her and we weren't in the same group for anything.

Well anyway, when I got back home, she had added me on Facebook. I thought and still do think she is very pretty. She made a status on sayin bored, message me. So I did. We talked 4 or 5 times via text after I got her phone number after our first message conversation. I asked her if she would want to go get some food with me sometime for our first in person meeting. She said she would but in the next text said she was really busy and wouldn't know when it would work. Later that day she made a status saying how she wanted to avoid relationships because she was always hurting people. I decided to give her some space and haven't texted her for about month and a half now.

The point is, should I text her today to catch up, and maybe in a couple days ask again if she wants to meet up for food or something? I really think we can connect because we have a lot of similar interests spiritually and in school. Or should I move on and find someone else to talk to?

[Knock Out]

Are you interested in dating her or just being friends? If you want to date her but she wants to avoid relationships, then respect her wishes, but you don't have to cut off contact with her. Be her friend. Be someone she can talk to freely. She might just change her mind someday.

Main point: Do what a friend would do.

[Alexandra Y.]

Catch up with her but don't pressure her into a date just yet. Get to know her better, earn her trust, make her laugh and then mention it again when some time has passed. Girls want to feel comfortable and if you guys share a common faith, bond through that as well. Basically, don't rush it. She clearly want time to be her own person, so give her that and then slowly make yourself part of her life. If she refuses a second time, move on. Life's too short to worry about someone who doesn't care.

[Mandy]

I think you should catch up with her.But ask yourself this do you want to date her or be just friends?You should figure out your feelings for her.If it's too early take it slow.Be friends with her,get to know her and if you do have feelings for her later on then talk to her about it.But don't pressure her.Give her some space and when she's ready she'll open up to you.

[Kendra]

Honestly?
I think she must have really liked you to add you on facebook, especially if you guys didn't talk much!(:
And about the second facebook status, she might have had a tough time with relationships before, so maybe just be super sweet and don't rush on things.
And I think you handled the situation awesomely! You gave her the space she needed, and now would be a great time to 'catch up'.
It's really great that you two have alot in common, that means that there will be plenty of conversation-starters, and that's a must in all starting relationships!
Maybe just start out with asking what's new, then if you feel that there is still a connection ask if she would like to go out for (A. Dinner, or B. Lunch, Or C. maybe even Breakfast!)
You don't have to necessarily make it a date unless you feel that you both are in the same place, in the start it's best to ask her just for fun(: Then let her decide if she wants to call it a date!
Just a little bit of advice, As a girl I've noticed that if you specify a time frame (example, Lunch) It says to the girl that you're organized, and it seems more likely to happen(:
& also, (You may already know this) But some classic girl code:
Going out for Breakfast= "I really like you, and don't care if you have bed-head hair!(: "
Going out for Lunch= "I've made time in my day to be with you(: "
Going out for dinner= "I'm a romantic, Let's have a deep conversation or just laugh all night long! <3"

Just remember, stay true to yourself and there's no way she could deny you(: Girls love confident guys that can remain themselves & have fun!

Hope this Helps, Best wishes!(:

[Mark]

Ok I’ll try and help you here buddy because I’ve been in a similar situation before, the first question you have to ask yourself is, if this girl is worth making an effort for, do you really like her? If the answer is yes, then you’re going to have to do some work because she seems to be the type who’s not quite sure what she wants and you’re going to have to convince her that you’re the guy for her or at least someone she should meet up with. Meaning you’re going to have to chase after her, not in a stalker way or anything but you’re going to have to try a few times to get her to go out with you but play it cool. It seems from what you have said that she is interested in you otherwise she wouldn’t of friended you or chatted with you via facebook/text but it also seems she’s afraid of making any type of commitment or meeting in person, that’s not uncommon so don’t worry, I think you’re doing a good job so far, you gave her some space so this shows you’re not clingy and desperate, that’s good, now you have to make a second attempt and see what’s going on with her now, you should casually text her and see whats she’s been up to and catch up. Once you’ve established contact with her again after a few days (make sure it’s a few days don’t ask immediately that will scare her off) bring up meeting up again but this time make it clear to her you just want to hangout as your not looking for anything serious but like to hangout with cool girls you have things in common with, no strings just as buddies (be careful you don’t fall in to the friends zone here) You have to give her the impression that you’re different and a cool person to chill out with, you need to make her feel comfortable through your texting so if she does decide to meet up with you she’s not going to feel any pressure when you’re hanging out, so basically when your talking to her be confident and casual, so make her feel if you guys do meet up your just going to hangout and have some fun, once you feel she’s comfortable with you suggest you guys meet up, if she’s still making excuses hang back for a few days and then try again, as I said before she may be the type you’ll need to do this a few times with but every time you do, make sure you come of as you’re not that bothered if you meet up or not, after a while she will come around if she doesn’t then at least you know you’ve done the best you could do and it shouldn’t bother you to much because you made the effort and you cant win them all, but I know persistence pays just as long as you play it cool, that is the key, so good luck buddy I hope some of this long message makes sense.