Online dating foreign cheaters?

[Micah]

So I'm American (from Florida) and I met this cute Polish girl online about 6 months ago and we have been dating since. We chat on Facebook quite often and video chat sometimes as well, we are both 17 years old and in high school, but I live in the U.S and she lives in a tiny village of 500 people in Poland. She is really nice and sweet and seems innocent for the most part and we have gotten along quite fine despite her not being fluent in English (which I'm ok with). The problem is that she has been pretty persistent lately in the past few weeks about our relationship, asking quesions like "When are you coming to Poland" and "Will we ever get married," the only problem is that we are a little young to be thinking about that stuff, but I sort of ignored it and accepted it, figuring that it may be part of the culture over in Poland; so I looked it up and through some research found out that dating is more serious in Eastern Europe than it is in America. So a while back I looked at her Facebook profile as I have before and I noticed that all of her friends are Polish... except one, and he's got an Arabic name and is from Cairo, Egypt; so I ignored it and thought that it was just any other guy. Well earlier today I went back on Facebook to see if she was on chat, because we arranged the previous day that today would be a good time to chat due to time zones and when I checked, she wasn't on chat... so I looked at her profile and the first thing I saw was a wall post from this Arabic dude from Cairo, Egypt and it said "miss you so much " and she commented saying "I also ____"... So what is this? Is this some kind of scam or some bullshit? Do you think that she is secretly dating this guy from Egypt? I looked at his profile and his info is limited, but says that he worked for a job in 2000, which makes him really old if it's true, even though he looks young enough to be a teen in his "one" photo he is willing to display, hah, I even googled his name and it said that he is a pro swimmer who was born in 1989... So why would a "pro" swimmer from Egypt who happens to have only 400 friends on Facebook (less than I have) be having relations (if they do) with a 17 year old Polish girl from a really small village? What should I do about this situation? I personally have never cheated, never desire to cheat, and have no tolerance for cheaters. All of this researching I have been doing has made me pissed the **** off and confused at the same time. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I messaged her saying that we need to talk and another one saying "Who is ___ (this Arabic guy) and why does he miss you so much?", but she is currently offline now because it's late at night in Poland currently. Any advice?

[Nina]

Ah jeez don't jump to conclusions. He is probably just a friend she met somewhere, calm down girls hate when they are accused for stuff.

[Profoundpark199]

There are scam busting sites with online lists of the names scammers use, their email addresses, stock copy/paste emails, paid-for-in-cash cell phone numbers, stolen pictures and fake websites they use. You could start your search at one of those sites.

If you have responded to a scammer, you are on his 'potential sucker' list, he will try again to separate you from your cash. He will send you more emails from his other free email addresses using another of his fake names with all kinds of stories of great jobs, lottery winnings, millions in the bank and desperate, lonely, sexy singles. He will sell your email address to all his scamming buddies who will also send you dozens of fake emails all with the exact same goal, you sending them your cash via Western Union or moneygram.

Do you know how to check the header of a received email? If not, you could google for information. Being able to read the header to determine the geographic location an email originated from will help you weed out the most obvious scams and scammers. Then delete and block that scammer. Don't bother to tell him that you know he is a scammer, it isn't worth your effort. He has one job in life, convincing victims to send him their hard-earned cash.

Whenever suspicious or just plain curious, google everything, website addresses, names used, companies mentioned, phone numbers given, all email addresses, even partial sentences from the emails as you might be unpleasantly surprised at what you find already posted online. You can also post/ask here and every scam-warner-anti-fraud-busting site you can find before taking a chance and losing money to a scammer.

[Gum]

Firstly, I am Polish and I can tell you that 17 is NOT a normal age for marriage in Poland. Her idea of marrying you without even meeting you seems ridiculous. People now marry after finishing Bachelors degree or even later. Dating in Poland might be a bit more serious than in US, but not that serious to get married after 6 months of online relationship.

Now, Egypt is one of the Polish people most favourite holiday destinations. She might have met the guy on holiday. 400 friends on Facebook is not too little if you focus only on real friends not random people you have met once.

This looks very weird to me and I'd watch out. I think the girl might be either unstable or might want to scam you for money (for example by asking you to pay for her plane ticket to US)