Why are some girls so insistent on hanging out with guys who they don't want to be with?

[Hikari]

In other words, why would a girl so desperately want to spend time with a guy who they aren't romantically interested in? Someone they have already friend-zoned? Even if it's painful for the guy, but he's too weak to say anything? Or even if the guy has a girlfriend, and doesn't find it appropriate to be hanging out with other girls one-on-one? Why do some girls get upset and take it personally when the guy in either scenario finally puts their foot down and says they can't spend so much time together anymore because it makes them uncomfortable given the circumstances?

I'm a girl, and I had really good guy friends who I lost contact with because they got girlfriends or realized I didn't like them the way they liked me. And I was fine with that... I mean, I still cared about them and went to the trouble to find out how they are doing in life by facebook and through other friends. But I didn't confront them or get emotional. My attitude was simply, "it is what it is". I'm satisfied even if the only contact I share with them aftewards is a simple facebook reply on my wall to a status update or something.

Knowing that the people I care about are alive and doing well is honestly enough for me. So why would a girl get all upset if a guy tells her that he can't hang out with her as much anymore? Or if he does hang out with her, it has to be in a group with other people, otherwise it gets too uncomfortable for the guy?

I don't understand women sometimes.

[Luck of the draw]

Because some of us can have platonic friends without wanting more. I think. I don't understand people ever.

[xnɭɟʞɹɐp]

well, i suppose i'm a good person to ask (or answer, as it were), seeing as how i have friends of the opposite sex (as well as of the same sex).

i just get along with the opposite sex better, and find them more fun to hang out with and easier to get along with. my sister is the same, and has always been a tomboy herself. she has more guy-friends than girlfriends, and currently no boyfriend.

being friends with someone of the opposite sex should not be an issue, even if you already have a mate chosen, as long as your friend KNOWS they are just a friend. you certainly shouldn't string someone along, and should confirm this with them if you ever suspect they seem like they want to be "more than friends" (unless that is what you want). and of course, nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have multiple boyfriends (though not if they are of the monogamous mind). having multiple boyfriends is not the same as having multiple husbands, though not many people agree with that statement, so it is always important to be upfront about it with your potential boyfriends. after all, if you don't share common beliefs, then why bother, right? but i've gotten abit off topic...

the modern convention of NOT having a friend of the opposite sex has more to do with personal concerns and issues than with it being "right" or "wrong". it is a matter of personal taste, and i myself have had friends and family confuse my hanging out with one particular friend as "dating them". i only spend time with them, and we have no intimate physical contact (though we may hug on occasion, but i hug my same sex friends, too). my friend has had the same problem with explaining things to her family/friends, and some of them still don't believe that two people of opposite sex can be "just friends".

it certainly takes a strong will to be able to do it, but it is completely a possibility, i assure you.