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Is this a bad idea or is it ok?
11-09-2012, 11:02 AM
Post: #1
Is this a bad idea or is it ok?
On August 22th (4 weeks ago) I messaged this guy on Plenty Of Fish (dating site) and said "Hey how are you? What's up?" and he responded with "Hey I'm good, just busy with work and going back to school at the end of September" and I responded with "Oh that's cool, I was wondering if you wanted to hang out or maybe you only like a certain type of girls" and he didn't respond. I shouldn't have added the last part, it was stupid. So I deleted that profile and made a new one and messaged him on the new one on August 30th (2 weeks ago) saying "Hey I think I messaged you last week asking you to ahgn out and said something else. So anyways, how's life?" and he didn't get on for 2 weeks until yesterday and he didn't respond. He hasn't gotten on today. I told myself that if he doesn't get on by Fri then I'm deleting that profile and never going back on because he's the only decent guy I've found. NOW I also thought about messaging him and saying "Look, I'm never persistent, but when I see a guy who enjoys nature, hiking, being outdoors and actually spells well I am pleased. My name is _____ and you can add me on Facebook if you want. Have a great day". Is that bad?
@Antonio: I get tons of messages everyday but even though these men are extremely attractive, they don't want anything substantial, they just want to hookup and I don't and I never will. I've never been the type to be persuaded easily. If this guy were to ever try to hookup I'd drop him even though I find him attractive.

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11-09-2012, 11:11 AM
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well to be honest...if u did all that to me, i would think ur really desperate...and probably take advantage of the situation and maybe hook up with u and then probably just dissapear. thats how guys do it when a girl seems to desperate. if ur beautiful and he likes u, then u might be lucky, but he does not seem too interested...

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11-09-2012, 11:11 AM
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I say go for the gold there is nothing wrong with showing a guy what you want! but after you say that message forget about it dont think about it and what ever happens happens! don't beat yourself up or anything! your are probably a very great person! if he does not respond then move on! I promise you will find a different guy, because there only like 50% of the worlds population!
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11-09-2012, 11:11 AM
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How do you KNOWS he's a decent guy? You haven't even met him. It takes about 6-12 months of regular frequent dating to get to know someone.

And why change your profile? Have enough pride in yourself to stand by what you say, even it if you regret it. Think about what you are going to say before you say it.
And do not message him again UNLESS he messages back.
It's like playing tennis you know ... you stand at one end of the court and serve a ball over the net to the over person. IF they are going to play tennis with you, they will hit the ball back. If they don't hit the ball back, you don't keep on serving balls over the net to them .. that's just foolish.
Everytime you message someone who has not responded, you look desperate. And the more "balls you hit over the net" when he's not playing with you, the MORE desperate and pathetic you look.

As for responding .. he's in school. That takes time and energy, you know. Why are you overreacting? Just leave your profile on .. there might be some decent-seeming guy some day. You never know.
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11-09-2012, 11:11 AM
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Read the book "The Rules". Men need to chase women. You should never ask a guy out.
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