boyfriend talking to women on facebook?

[panda and narla]

Hi iv had a nagging feeling for months that my boyfriend is upto something on facebook but he started password protecting his computer so i could not see but this weekend he fell asleep without locking the computer so i had a nosey and found two facebook messages sent by him to two different women saying they look sexy in there profile photos and how are they both still single one girl he claims is a close friend and the other he knows from school (hes now 24) iv asked him in the past about the 2nd girl and he accused me of bieng paranoid so you can imagine my shock when i found the messege which he says meant nothing i have now ended the relationship because im so hurt but deep down i still love him and cant just forget the 3 years of my life with him am i right to end it or should i have tried to forgive him like he wants me too

[Nancy]

You were probably right to end it. Usually when a woman has a "nagging feeling" she is right. Been there, done that, with guys.

[Jodi]

Maybe you need to make him realize what he has lost. It really depends on the guy. You did the right thing leaving.. like I said make him realize what you two had..

[Samuel]

I think you are right to end the relationship seeing as he's been cheating on you. But I also think it's perfectly acceptable to forgive him and give him a second chance too, there's no definitive answer though other than whether you feel you can forgive him.

[CatLady]

In my relationship, neither me or him EVER go around telling other people they look sexy or anything like that. That's just wrong and disrespectful to yor significant other. Especially if he's hiding these things for you. I believe trust and respect are the main keys to a healthy relationship. Clearly, he can't be trusted. So I believe you did the right thing.

[Frances.]

You love him, but does he love you the same? Probably not. It's hard and stuff I know. But look at it this way. Had you done the very same to him would he like it? Probably not. Relationships have to have some boundaries. He should have respected you and put his focus on only you even without you asking him not to do certain things. It's common sense. More importantly, it's called love. Who needs other people when you found the person you want?

He probably doesn't want you anymore and wants to explore other women. You should move on as well with other men. Also, since you broke up with him and he hasn't even tried to ask for another chance that really says something. Or, if he is asking for another chance, he may be doing so because for now he doesn't want to be alone and practically juggle women.

[laughingduck]

I feel you were right to end the relationship. He or you should never be telling other men or women how attractive they are, it is disrespectful to the other person in the relationship and just not right. I found my boyfriend doing that on his facebook in August, I was walking out the door with all of my things but he stopped me and cried to me about how sorry he was, I am still with him however I made him delete his facebook and I am extremely insecure and always feel like he's doing things behind my back. So I don't know what to tell you, it is a hard situation.. either you leave him and miss him or stay with him and be paranoid hoping you can regain trust for him.I am doing the second option and it isn't going all that well.. Good luck to you!

[night]

paint the words on his car saying "facebook cheater".