Overprotective and Overly Involved Mom?

[Valerie L]

Wow your mom is like my mom LOL. Moms can be like that because they love us. We are like a pot of gold that's worth tons of money. Moms want what is best for us. They overprotect us because of has happened in the past. Some girls get raped and killed. Some girls get kidnapped and are never seen again. Its like YOLO but it should be MWWB. Moms what what's best! Remember follow her and love her!

[Miri]

Its probably kind of obvious that your mom wont change any time soon so I think you should live with your grandma for like a month or so, so you can give her sometime to think about what shes been doing.

[Rebecca]

You are right. Your mother is living vicariously through you. You should set up a new facebook account with just your friends on it. Make it private so your mother can't see it. Post to your old wall that this is no longer your facebook account, but your mother impersonating you. Also, send it out as messages. If they choose to play along with her, fine. Just know that you are no longer associated in any way with that account. Dates made with you or activities arranged will have to be fulfilled by your mother. Then, ask your gtandmother if you can stay with her on your school breaks. Give your cellphone back to your mother, but first send out a mass text to your contacts that your number has changed with similar disclaimers as the ones you used on facebook. Tell your mom and dad they both need help, and you'll be back when/if they get it.

[Daun]

Ok. I will try. Stay in school!!!!!. Get ur diploma. That is most important. Facebook -u can cancel it or start a new one that she has no way to access. Get a job, move out and live ur own life. This will be very hard on her. Really hard!!!!. Cell phone with ur job money get ur own. Buy the kind of clothing u like. Let ur friends know that it is not u on the computer or phone. If they stop talking with her she should stop. Good luck Truly!! Remove all the phone numbers if ur friends from the phone. As for her kicking u out. That is not right. I asked my grandmother if I could live with her. U need to move out.

[cornhuskerboy2003]

Your mom has a mental problem by what I have read here. She should not be reading your facebook all the time and pretending to be you when she writes them. That is morally wrong. And if your dad and grandparents can't see that or understand that concept. Then there dumb like a rock. She acts like she is trying to be your age and compete for attention. She needs to focus on her life and hang around her own peers not hang around your peers for goodness sake.

I am sorry you had all these issues. And I assume now your in college by what you indicate. If she bothers you tell her your busy doing school work and don't have time right now for the issue. But will get back soon to her when you can break away. Sounds like also that your mom doesn't want to loose her baby and try's to treat you like a baby because she knows your a adult now and doesn't want you to leave the nest. Your solution is your going to have to be tuff and tell her mom look I am not no longer a baby. I am a adult. I have to make decisions on my own. And do things on my own. If I need help on a issue I would be more happy enough to ask you or dad. Please respect me in my wishes and give me my space. Tell her also That in time you will leave the house and have your own place and a real good job down the line when you get your education and degree and graduate.Tell her you can't have me forever. I will have a life of my own like you did in time. See what she says to that concept. Good luck and be firm about your rights and ways.