why is he doing this to me?

[Cindy]

I met this guy a few weeks ago. He added me as a friend on facebook. He made all the moves. We had a great first date. The second date was amazing and then we started meeting up once or twice a week. So we've been getting to know each other. A bit of kissing. He's initiated sex but we haven't done it yet.

So he's been charming and has been making me feel like a lady...Until...

One day he said he was looking at an old facebook profile picture of mine and he said I looked slimmer and happier compared to recent ones. To be honest that one he was looking at was taken in a nightclub so I'm wearing slinky top, heels, etc. One of my recent ones...I'm wearing ear muffs and a coat...a bit different. Of course over the years I'm a little curvier. I'm fit and very healthy. My body is hour class shape. My waist is slim and my hips are curvy.

Anyway so now this guy is saying stuff like will you lose weight for me, you should eat 2 apples and a soup everyday. He said I'm beautiful. Now I just feel like rubbish. I can't feel or want to be intimate with him.

Is this a power trip? I'm confident, well travelled and I have a good job. His work situation is a little bit shaky. I feel he is saying this stuff about my weight to make me feel bad.

One day I didn't answer my phone because it was too late. He thought I was on a date. So I guess he has low self esteem. I'm aware I need to tone up a bit. Although I'm not overweight. Yesterday I didn't want to eat. I felt like he controlled me.

Thoughts? I still think he cares about me. But I'm finding it hard...I want to speak to him but how can I get him to understand me...

[James R]

Cindy, You haven't known this guy long enough for him to try to make you change. His nitpicking will get worse , find a good guy that likes you the way you are. Shop Around