My friends dad just died? Havnt seen her in over a year?

[Pez]

My friends dad just died of cancer, we were friends in school, not great friends but still friends, went to her house once and we hung out in our group and lunch times and in lessons. I feel like saying something, but i don't know what, I've never experienced this, she's hard to get hold of but i know she uses Facebook sometimes, should i send her a message? no ones really heard from her since we left school anyway so its been hard to keep in touch. Ive spoken to her twice since. What little message should i leave her or should i just not say anything? I know nothing will help the situation but maybe just knowing i care?

[Penny]

I would just message her saying 'hi, im so sorry to hear about your dad. Just to let you know, you can talk to me anytime if you feel like you need a chat, im happy to help. We should catch up sometime too when you are feeling better. ' hope this helps... xx

[Cormac]

When she next talks about the death or funeral, say " I'm very sorry aboutn your dad." Or something like that.

[seddy]

Right now i am sure hearing from an old friend would help a ton. Just knowing that there are people caring about you helps in these horrible situations. Reach out to her. Ill have her in my prayers.

[Michael]

It depends how close you feel you were with her before. I'd just send a message saying sorry for your loss, hit me up if you wanna talk. If we were close i'd say hey sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. (Something like that) let's meet up soon. Then i'd console her.

[Tin-God]

I would send a card to her home, just a sympathy card

[Jo]

Yes, you should say something. Hearing from old friends and acquaintances duing a time like this can be comforting. Helps to know that even long-distanced - knew-at-one-time people care enough to say something.

Yes, say something on Facebook. "Heard about your dad. Please know how sorry I am".

And/or send a real card with a handwritten note. Doesn't have to be long or too sappy. Just "thinking about you during this tough time"

Yes, definitely, reach out in some small way to her.

[baby g]

aww i think you would be a lovely friend to her. you sound caring and considerate. if shes still on facebook send her a messege saying, its been hard to get hold of her and you are really sorry about what shes going through. you heard about what happened to her dad and if she needs someone to talk to or hang with you are there for her.
i lost my dad to cancer too and having a friend in that moment meant the person really cares and is a good friend. please find a way to contact her and see if shes okay. all the best.