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Boyfriend is acting a little weird...need opinions!!!! 10 POINTS!!!!?
11-09-2012, 11:28 AM
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Boyfriend is acting a little weird...need opinions!!!! 10 POINTS!!!!?
I am in a long distance relationship with my guy for over two years. He is planning on moving in with me next year. We are both in our 30's, and because of our age, I cannot believe I am even going through with this.

We communicate frequently by phone, text, and email, but never through facebook. He is rarely on there because he thinks it is silly. Anywho, our profile pics are of each other, and has been that way for 2 years. Recently my sister came and visited me (whom I only get to see maybe once every couple of years due to location) Well, I changed my pro pic to my sister and I. And then I also posted a youtube video of one of my favorite songs (which happens to be a break-up song, but I love it) After that, I had noticed that my guy has been real short with me through texts....not his typical lovey-dovey self. Asked him what was up, and then he told me that it made him really sad to see that he is no longer in my pro pic, and is worried that I want nothing to do with him because of the song I posted??? We have a wonderful relationship. We never fight, we still act like we did when we first met each other. The sex is awesome....and he has been hinting at marriage, which I told him that I would be honored to take his last name when the time comes. So, why would he assume these things of me. Over a song and a pro pic? It is not like it was me and another guy, it was a silly pic of me and my sister. So, to prove to him that I do indeed love him, I dropped what I was doing in the middle of the night, and drove over 3 hours just to give him a hug and to tell him that I love him in person. He says he is sorry for all of this, but I have no ideas where this would come from. Could he be getting cold feet about moving in with me? Could he be having second thoughts? Opinions please!!!
1 second ago - 4 days left to answer.
Nice try shrink. I changed the picture days before I posted the song, because my sister thought it would have been cute if we would have matching pro pics. He knows my sister so I know he is not thinking it was a lesbian issue. I posted that song because I heard it on the radio that day and it is one of my favorites and have not heard it in a long time.....so I decided to share it on my wall. No cold feet here....I have never been so sure about anything ever in my life....and the reason why I said "I cannot believe that I am even going through with this" is because we are both in our 30s and it seems that this issue is kind of trivial. But thanks for taking the time to answer.

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11-09-2012, 11:36 AM
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Is it possible that he hasn't met your sister? He could have thought that you posted a picture of your girlfriend (intimately) and put the song on Youtube because you decided to be lesbian for now. From his perspective, his picture was kicked to the curb and then you posted a break-up song to boot. It kind of sends a message doesn't it. Whether you did it on purpose or subconsciously your the one who posted these 2 thing at this time in your life, YOU seem to be the one who is getting cold feet. It's called a Freudian slip. It seems to me that you have doubts in this relationship, at this point of time. Reading your questions first paragraph leads me to believe that because of the way you have worded your question. You have stated "I cannot believe I am even going through with this" and this".

A Freudian slip, also called parapraxis, is an error in speech, memory, or physical action that is interpreted as occurring due to the interference of some unconscious ("dynamically repressed"), subdued wish, conflict, or train of thought. The concept is thus part of classical psychoanalysis.

Slips of the tongue and the pen are the classical parapraxes, but psychoanalytic theory also embraces such phenomena as misreadings, mishearings, temporary forgettings, and the mislaying and losing of objects.

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