PLEASE ANSWER: Who is right, me or my crush? What should we do?

[dante]

Ok so my crush and I supposedly have been liking each other since may. Before, we would talk for hours, only call each other by our nicknames, send hearts and stuff. She would tell me how you know if a girl likes you and i would tell her how you would know if a guy likes you and we both showed all the signs. We would hang out and we even kissed several times. We were really into each other. However, last month, I signed in on her friends Facebook account because she needed mine for some reason and I read a conversation between them. WEll what I read, was that she said how she only liked me as a friend and only kissed me to make me happy and to not tell me. So her friend was shocked but didn't tell me anything. Those messages were sent in mid august and I read them in mid october. I was so torn that i ignored her for three days. She said she tried to contact me but from my end I see she only tried to contact me once. But she would try to sign on and talk to me about it and try to get her friends to let her know when I was online. When she signed on i signed off. I saw it as "no you played me and I don't want to have to hear your b.s explanation. I saw what I saw" After 3 days we finally talk. It was a long discussion and she seems to have been hurt more than me. She says how she got depressed and couldn't eat right. Then got desperate by trying to get her friends to tell her when I signed on. However I only saw one "hey" on Facebook. Not no "we need to talk" or "I'm sorry". Plus she didn't call my phone nor did she text me so I don't know how she could have been so "Desperate" to fix things.

Anyways her point was that she lied to prevent anyone from knowing anything about "us" because if anyone in her family found out she wouldn't be able to see me and she really likes me. She says how she for the first time opened up her whole heart to someone,me, and got burned. My point is what was the purpose of lying. That girl was one of her best friends and one of the few that knew almost everything we did. So why lie? its not like it was some distant person or family member who could jeopardize what we had. As a result, things between us aren't the same. We don't talk as much. Text as much hearts as we do. We can't even kiss anymore.

She says how she wants to protect her heart so she won't kiss me because kissing me is addictive and she feels she will get too attached to me if she kisses me. I think we are both at fault. She should have just been honest, and I should have communicated. But now its like Im the one being punished for it. I still try to hint at kissing her and she practically totally shuts the idea down. Now things are pretty dull. Sure she sends a heart or kiss on Facebook every now and then but whats that going to do and for how long? I see it as one whole big misunderstanding and Im willing to go back to how things are but she can't. I think she should be able to but she just has to be more careful. But she's taking it to the extreme and already cutting out all the cute things we did. I feel like Im paying for it at the expense of her saving herself. Its sort of selfish. But I did hurt her real bad. I mean we don't even talk nearly as much anymore and even if we do there is no flirting or heart filled condos like before. I miss the old times we had. I wish we can go back to it. But I don't know what to do.

P.S ever since, because her family doesn't want her dating, she wants for me to go out and date other girls instead of waiting on her since she feels she will be holding me back. She wants for me to go out and enjoy myself and if Im able to, to come back to her when she is old enough.
But I don't want to leave her side. What should I do?

[Faith ♥]

wow this is intresting wait,talk to her more invite her to the movies stuff like that but as friends maybe a heart then and there but she cant be in a relationship no you understand that wait though if she actually likes you that way and lied to her friend then she will e ready when shes old enough