Privacy issues in marriage?

[♥Meme♥I.Smell.Like.Purple.Today!]

my husband demands his privacy when it comes to his phone and talking to his ex fiancée the mother of his child. but then gets upset when he cannot access my Facebook because the email and password were changed. I'm only trying to be a good wife and make him happy but it seems everything I do is wrong.. any advice on how to handle this?

[Tex-s]

Yes, run.

In my experience, controlling behavior from hubby just tells you why he has an ex-fiancee. Either he goes all-in and trusts you or you need to get all-out of this.

[Sheila]

You have a double standard of sorts going on in your marriage. Your husband has a baby with this woman, but privacy is a two way street. If he demands privacy, you are entitled to yours.

[black diamonds]

yea men are selfish. women can never do as a man does even if hes doing the same things to her. hes secret but wants you to be open with your things. crazy. not much you can do. but i will say this you can be the best wife to him but NEVER lose yourself in his mess. NEVER. and hold your word and ground because men have a way of making you feel worthless and wrong..........

[?]

Trying to be the stereotypical GOOD wife can get you used up real quick!

[Stephanie]

i think hes flirting with some other girls or talkin back to him ex fiancee the women of hes child may let him think TWICE and want her back . i have seen many of this . just act like u dont care and do whatever u have to do . just like hes talkin to hes fiance talk to other guys too and see how hes gona feel , and he say something be like I DONT LIKE U TALKIN TO HER ALL THE TIMES or have ur privacys cuz ur hes wife not hes bitch

[Lanie]

This is really something you should have discussed before marriage. If he wants you to share all, then he should be willing to as well. Don't let him control you. Everyone should have some privacy, but it should be fair. If he can't handle sharing his business, then be firm in not sharing yours. Let him know right away that double standards are unacceptable. It may take some time, but eventually he'll get the picture. If he's stubborn and fights you to the end, leave. If he's insistent on being so private, maybe he's doing something that he shouldn't be.

Good luck.

[Steven Shanna]

When people get married, it is because they are best friends. Best friends do not live secret lives. There should be no issues of trust. If he feels that he needs privacy to talk to his ex, I would question that. There should be no issues with trust from either side. Once trust is gone, I do not believe that it can be fixed. You better fix the problem now before it can not be fixed. My husband and I dropped our old Facebooks, and started one together when we got married. We share both email accounts. When he talks to his ex about their son, he does not have a problem doing it in front of me. Matter of fact, he said that he does not feel comfortable being on the phone with her unless I am present. In both of our past marriages, they failed because of distrust.

[lola]

Get out of this relationship. Demanding access to your Facebook and email accounts is unreasonable, controlling, and one of the first signs your partner is a potential abuser. As well, if he's secretive about his interaction with another person, but demands complete access to you all your life, that's unfair.