WHY IS MY DAD CHEATING ON MY MUM?!?

[mirabelle]

yeah i know i've asked this a few times but i need to be sure...
im a 13 year old girl living with my 2 married parents.i have no siblings or close family living in my country.

when my dad was in the shower i looked on his phone and there were loads of messages(on his facebook)he sent to women like"love u babes xxx" and "i want the best for you xx" and "i will always find a place for you in my heart xxx".i was so shock i couldnt read more.i know it was wrong of me to look at his messages but....

when i was little my dad cheated on my mum and they separeted.i was really horrible because my mum went into a deopression(shes bipolar)and she had to go to hospital.

after a year they got back together and now,im 13,and i find out he doing it again!

i really dont wanna tell my mum and i dont have any family in this country!

WHAT SHOULD I DO??!please help

P.s.i took pics of the messagrs(they're in my secret folder on my phone)so i have proof.

no answers like "stop snooping around your dad's phone!" or "this is an adult thing"

also its not family or good friend because i looked at her profile and its a woman in her twenties that live in the same town as us!(weve only been living her 3 years!)

i know i shouldnt have looked at the messages but i did...

also im not confident enough to tell my mum because i love her so much i dont want her to feel hurt!!!

btw mat i point out he is a 50 year old methodist(christian priest)!

[Hot Chocolate]

tell your dad you know hes cheating

[TUVWXYZ]

Why is your mom cheating on your dad?

[Danny]

check them one more time see if he has done anymore
if hes done anything more use his facebook and send her a message sayin
"p*ss off h** i was only messing" then block her
if that dont work id tell your mum but leave it for now.

[Marie]

Sweetie i dont think your gonna get any answer that will solve this for you. It may have just been pics, he never met the woman possibly? I wish you luck, but pls dont tell your mom. Talk to counselor at schoo.

[dan]

Your father cheats because he can and he wants to. It's not your fault its not your mom's fault, this is his issue. As he is a repeat offender I would wager that he likes the idea of having a wife at home and a mistress on the side. That attitude is likely not going to change.

If he is unhappy he can always ask for a divorce. Sure it wont be easy on your mom or you, but im sure its a ton easier than your mom finding out that he's cheating again.

[thinker]

Don't tell your mum, it will break her heart again. see if you can tackle him. Perhaps you could get in touch with his other women. ask them if they know if your dad is married.