relationship sexual advice needed.?

[Sean]

hello- my name is sean and im 21. just a year ago i had everything i wanted and was happy as could be.this all changed with my long-distance girlfriend cheated on me and we broke up. I was, and still am in love with her. As you can imagine, i was devastated. from then on, my life was totally different. instead of spending my time video chatting with her and hanging out with my friends, i spent most of my time locked in my room stalking her Facebook and twitter accounts. when i was out of my room, i felt awkward and afraid to talk to even my closest friends. i felt inadequate. i had zero confidence and i was depressed. since i wasn't exactly "getting any" i developed a habit of watching porn and masturbating. this became one of the few times during the day when i was stress free and able to keep my mind off of my sadness. during the days, i looked forward to the nighttime when i could masturbate. although i only did it once a day, i was addicted and couldn't stop. i had no sexual drive and no interest in chasing women. in a way i didnt stop because i was convinced that i wouldnt find a girl even if i did stop, so there was no reason to stop. my daily routine has been this way ever since the break up and i want to stop masturbating. i want to have a sex drive again. i want to like women again and i want to believe that they like me back. i cant go on living like this. if you have been in a similar situation or have some advice or wisdom that would be helpful, please post. it would mean a lot.

[D, The Writer]

Seek a sex therapist. No, they don't do anything sexual to you, but they'll help you navigate your problem and come up with a treatment plan that would get you back into women.

[Madcat MK III]

Hmm looks like you need a major heart patching. Let me see what i can do to help you.

Your girlfriend was far away. Long distance like you said. It is much harder to keep your GF for yourself when you can't keep an eye on her the whole time, so there was a much higher risk of you losing her. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Most of the time, relationships with GFs over the internet and long distance GFs don't last long cos the caring party doesn't know what the other party is doing. Just asking, have you met her in person before? Stalking her accounts isn't exactly the best thing to do, as you're only going to end up reminiscing the times you had with her. Stop thinking about her. That is the only way to break free and relieve yourself of your addiction.

The habit of watching porn and masturbating is, like you said, developed because your sex drive isn't satisfied. You have friends going through 69 and BDSM, but you feel that you are missing things out cos you broke up. My brother used to be like you, porn and wanking, but i made him realized that his time is better spent making new friends and pursuing girls. Porn is illegal (in certain countries). One way is to think that you are saving all your ejaculations for your future GF, so when you get to it, you can have your MEGA orgasm. i haven't helped anyone else before besides my brother, so i hope that by thinking positive and using the methods i've given, you can free yourself. Another way is to take all the things you have of her and pile them, burn them and wish that you never remember them. Another is to go on a holiday, BUT please DO NOT go to the extent of prostitutes. It would only ruin your life further. Do not let your life spiral down anymore.

On the account that you have lost your sex drive, i can only say that your drive disappeared with your break up. You feel that she is the only one worthy of being in bed together. Well, There are a few billion people on this earth, so there DEFINITELY must be someone else out there ready and waiting to be swiped off their feet. By emoing at home, you probably lost many many many opportunities to get to know good girls out there. Get off the com, go out, socialize, talk to someone you trust, and put on a confident front. No one else can help you if you refuse to help yourself.

So Sean, i hope this helped. I may not be an expert, but i have much counselling experience. To others who may be reading this, i beg your pardon for using such dirty words. Sincerely hope you'll forgive my choice of words. Thank you and good luck, Sean.