What Is She Doing...?

[tyber]

So, I've been talking to this girl on Facebook since the middle of June... we got over 2400 messages/texts etc by the end of the summer. Since we seemed to have a TON of stuff in common I decided to ask her out since I didn't know if once school started again (Shes 16 and I'm 17) shed be getting hit on / going out with other guys.

She told me no because "she doesn't really like dating in general" and that her decision was "after a lot of consideration because you're pretty much awesome" and she "still wants to be friends".... so a couple days later her best friend talked to her about it (Not my idea) and found out that shes only had 1 boyfriend and only told me she didnt want to since she didn't know if she "liked" me or not because we haven't actually met before.

I've been trying to organize to do something with this girl for like 4-5 weeks now, and every weekend shes busy ("busy" ? ) doing something... shes still talked to me a lot since I asked her out, but the last few days she doesn't seem to respond to anything anymore. Like most people I check my Facebook messages whenever I'm on there and it tells me that shes "Seen at [Time]" my messages the past few days, but she doesn't respond or say anything back anymore...

I guess I'm kind of "stuck" now and I really dont know what to do / what im supposed to do now..? Wait it out? Try again in a few days? Ignore her?


*I'm fine being "just friends" but it still seems odd... shes talked to me for over a month since I asked her out

*We've never met before, which is why I've been trying to organize something.

*The last time I "really" heard from her was Wednesday of last week, but she sent me like a 2 word message on Sunday...

*The last time ive sent her something was Monday

*Literally nothing "different" has happened at all, they just all of a sudden stopped talking

*Ive been trying to organize stuff "as friends" in the least creepy way possible.. even suggested to make it a group thing.

*Yes, she knows I'm really me and I know shes really her.. we've briefly seen each other once by accident.

*I dont think shes ignoring me beacuse I asked her out, that was over a month ago & shes been talking to me just fine since then... until now.

I just find it really odd shes read my "recent" messages but hasn't responded to me for a few days/a week? What would randomly make her stop responding to stuff?



*DO NOT SAY "FRIENDZONE", if that was the case she would still be talking to me...
Thank god im not the only 1...

Its not like I've spammed her... or said anything weird/creepy etc.... its like she woke up one day and said "LOLNOPE"

[Control]

I'm in the same scenario, we need someone to answer this for us.

[Joe]

Sorry, she 'zoned' ya. Best thing to do now is leave her ALONE! I know, you miss her, can't stop thinking about her, etc. move on. The longer you play her silly games, the longer the pain. Sorry, man...

[Ahna]

My guess is that she's like me. She probably has some kind of fear of social interaction and gets scared about doing an activity with another person. People who has social-phobias can hide it very well, she probably said she was busy because she was afraid of going some where with you for fear of you deciding you don't like her and ditch her. I had the same problem with a guy a few months ago, in the end we just went and saw a movie because it was an activity that didn't require much talking.

[Mari-Mari]

I think that going back to school changes a lot of things, especially the amount of time a person has to test and be on Facebook. She is probably faced with much more to do, school work, after-school activities, sports, gym and clubs, volunteering, part-time jobs etc etc. A lot of kids have a lot going on, she could be one of them. I would suggest you just let her be for the time being, give her the space she needs and be there when she is ready to spent time with you. Do not put any pressure on her just now and just wait it out. Good Luck.

[Juan]

Dont talk to her dude. a girl who wont commit to one guy is trash. ignore her and find a girl worth your time

[Casey]

More than likely, she's nervous. Girls are taught to be very wary of guys they haven't actually met in person and more than likely the idea of meeting you scares her a little. She also might be afraid she won't live up to your expectations or that you won't live up to hers. She could just want to keep this in internet-land,where her friendship isn't blurred by real life. Also, she might just be inexperienced and nervous to go out with you or to have a boyfriend. The fact that her friend had to talk to you about that says that she might not be ready for a relationship. Asking her out probably spooked her and now she probably feels awkward talking to you or is second-guessing the fact that she's spending so much time talking to a guy online or by phone. If you really want the relationship to continue, you have to tell her how you feel and give her the space to make a decision. That's all you can really do.

[Faith]

She might have changed her mind about you or maybe she just wants to cut off your friendship; or maybe she is just busy and doesn't have time to talk. Sorry it" going like this for you two but maybe you should wait awhile to see if she messages you, instead of you messaging her. Hope this helps!