why would my ex join all the same Facebook groups as me, and then delete them when I tell him I know?

[Shelly]

I was seeing this guy for a year and then we split. He never seemed to be able to leave me alone although he wasn't making any moves to get back with me. A lot of it rested on his not "trusting" me.

Last month I saw him around a lot more and he was driving around near my office. Now I know he has to be there for HIS work BUT this time he was slowing down and leaning out of the window. In the past he has driven past me & not stopped or looked. I notice because I am naturally very observant.

FIVE times he stopped and parked up and leaned out of his window as I walked to the station but he never SAID anything. The 6th time I finally went up to him and said "hey, how are you, stranger?" One of the first things he said was "why aren't you on Facebook?" I said I was but it was private. He then admitted to Googling me to try and see where I was at. (he failed as there's nothing on me)

I saw him again 3 weeks ago, and told him I'd part-open my FB so he could see what I was up to. (there's very little info except for my Groups)

The next week I noticed HE has joined 10 of my groups. Some are so obscure and only have 2 or 3 members, which is how I noticed.

He then found me again and told me he wanted to maybe give us another try. I said we'd meet next week and talk further. When we met, he said he "did not mean" what he said. I was hurt and baffled.

I wrote him a goodbye letter, and mentioned that I was leaving my job as I can't face seeing him driving around all the time. I also said I knew he was on my FB groups.

I checked my groups just now and he's removed himself from all of them, so I guess by now he's got my note.

Should I take this as a final goodbye from him? Now he knows I know he was on my groups, so him removing himself is quite a point, right?

I know he is no good but it is really hard getting over someone who contacts me every now and then, probably when life is bad for him. In short, I know he is using me but I can't help still loving him and talking to him whenever he wants. We're both 36.

NB I get that FB is childish but that is the only way he thinks he can "watch" me, short of driving past me.

[whyme]

don't change your life just for him
ignore him do nothing no meetings etc you don't need this sort of attention.
let it be do what you want get on with your life he will soon go away pity he couldn't just accept what is and be a friend instead

[MarkJ]

Move on this guy is weird and a stalker..... he will never trust you and he will continuallly want to know where you are......you need help for keeping up the non-sense and leading him on.