Why is my bf being really mean to me?

[Romi M]

I really love my bf. He always calls me everyday, and he is supportive. However, he always keeps track of what I do on Facebook. If I change my profile picture a couple of times, he has a problem, even though I don't do it every day! He thinks I am on fb 24x7, even though I am not! He thinks I am really lazy and that I don't do the housework, even though I do. He also thinks that I don't help my mom and my aunt, even though I do. Even when I tell him I do all these things, he doesn't even believe me! I feel so upset! Today we had a huge fight about this subject, and he really made me cry for over one hour nonstop. I feel that if I breakup with him, I can't find anyone. I feel that all boys just hate me, even if I am nice to them. All the guys I have liked in the past are either taken, like someone else, really far away and/or are super jerks. I feel like I can't ever connect with anyone else. And I feel that if I can't find anyone, I will just adopt. I am nice to every person I meet; I know I don't give off a negative aura. I groom myself and I try to be at my very best. Please help me! I am really crying inside :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

[Finwie]

You sound young, and if you break up with him you'll find someone else eventually. And besides, do you really need another person to make yourself whole?

You shouldn't be with someone if you're unsure about them just because you're afraid of being alone. I would never date someone who accused me of these things, he sounds kinda nuts.

[anonymous]

He might not be being mean to you. You two seem to have different standards.

Example: "The house is clean" may mean 'There's stuff all over the counters but I can still walk around' to one person, but to another it may mean "It's completely clean in here. Everything is put away and there's not a spec of dust anywhere."

It sounds like you're just with him because no one else is interested in a relationship with you at this current time.

To be blunt, you need to 'grow up'. Go have a conversation with him face to face and calmly tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. Have him do the same and be sure to listen to him and try seeing things from his perspective.

You need to believe in yourself more. You seriously don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. When you realize this and when you become more independent, you will then be content.

[Curious]

Dear, I think he loves you and is insecure. He might be feeling that he is ot suitable for you and may be he doesn't deserve you. So he is just intimidating you in order to feel secure. I think this is to gain more love from you. Take care and don't blame yourself