My friend is out of control? We are 16?

[Gina]

Okay so she's not really my friend any more, we haven't spoke in a couple months now /: All I really see of her now is on Facebook. She has fell out with all of our group, she said that they should die and laughs at them and says that there boring and no boy will ever go near them with there dick etc.

Like Ive known this girl since she first school, we used to be bestfriends, I know she had it tough growing up, her mom and dad didnt like her and I also know that she was sexually assaulted/ abused etc.

She smokes, drinks a LOT and I also fear she may be doing drugs,I've also heard a rumour she's prostituting herself plus she steals.

When she speaks too you she is confused about little things you say, she gets VERY violent, she steals money from her parents but she also steals out of shops. Shes very pale but now she uses about a ton of fake tan.

She got pregnant at 15 but she had a miscarriage. I dont know why she does it too herself. She also sends naked -pictures of herself too. She failed her GCSE's too and refused to go to school.

Tbh I dont wanna call the police or anything because she was a nice girl, WHY is she acting like this? I would try and talk too her but she don't wanna hear anything? and WONT listen, she violent too.

WHY is she acting like this?

[Johnny]

It is good that you are concerned for the well being of others instead of yourself but I fear that there is nothing that you can do. She made her own decisions and ergo she knows full well of the consequences involved, i believe that people are motivated by self-interest. She wouldn't make a decision that she wouldn't like. Let her find out the answers she seeks for herself and then she will then decide whether she will change or continue to engage in what people normally consider extreme behavior. Freedom of choice, she will realize something and find the answers to her questions hopefully, just give her time and be there for her when she needs your the most not as a friend but as a moral human being. I wish you and your friend all the best and continue to listen to your soul

[Jessica]

When I was 16 I was raped and I behaved in the same way. I was promiscuous and I did drugs and I skipped school I started smoking and I stopped hanging out with my friends. The only thing that saved me was therapy. Talk to a teacher that you can trust about your friend. They will talk to her and hopefully she will take the help. I know when people tried to help me I got hurt and angry and I did not want anyone to help me. shes going through a lot and you are only sixteen and you do not have the knowledge to help her in anyway other then trying to get her help. after that stay away until she has come back to you. But you can let her know anytime she needs you that you are there. She is not being herself. right now she is feeling like she is dirt. so shes trying to act like it. That's what I did. Good luck to you and her. I hope she gets the help she needs. It may take her to hit complete bottom for her to admit help. She might not be there yet. She probably doesn't feel like she deserves good things in her life. I hope that changes for her.

[Aurora]

It sounds like she has had a tough life. I agree with the above answer. She needs therapy.

[thewaythingsare]

possibly evolution in action, but greatly aggravated by a disturbed childhood. She sounds as if she has no self-esteem, which is why she does all this in a cry for help.

I'm afraid you need to steer well clear, this is a job for some serious therapists, not for 16 year olds. For your own safety don't meet her alone. You could speak to your teachers to see if they can get social services involved - this is not calling the police.

sad news.