Did I screw up? Girlfriend is mad.?

[Fred]

On facebook yesterday my girlfriend saw me with another girl with my arms around her but we were both far away and it was a friend that me and my group went out with. Now she's mad at me and is questioning her trust of me, but I swear to God I have never done anything that would hurt her when I go out. Am I wrong for doing that? Or is she wrong for being mad? I feel I'm part to blame and I don't know what to do. Sorry just doesn't seem to work. Thanks for the feedback.

[Hello]

She just has some trust issues and wants be the only girl in your life. Just reassure her that she's the only one for you and help her to trust you. You are allowed to have friends that are girls and you say you didn't do anything bad, so you shouldn't feel guilty. Girls get jealous easily and question a lot. She probably has had some problems in the past with trusting guys and them betraying her trust. Just talk it through and be honest with her.

[divadiver]

I think it's one of those easy misunderstood things. Just call her or something and tell her that you are sorry if you upset her but you didn't mean anything by it and that you care for her only. She probably just needs some reassurance. Good luck!

[Sean]

Reassure her thats all, everyone gets a little jealous, good couples confront those sorts of things and be honest about them.

[Alissa]

your not in the wrong neither is she sometimes its normal for her to be a little jealous and kinda mad, imgaine seeing her in another guys arms. but your not in the wrong either having contact with girl through touching in a non sexual way doesnt mean u should blame ur self if ur gf mad

[nicepolice592]

Well all I can say is how would you feel towards her if you saw her with another guys arms around her? It doesnt feel good..Maybe if she had a heads up like you telling her it was a little akward, it would have been acceptable. but if you see the situation as nothing is wrong then maybe you and her should part because she obviously takes the relationship a little more serious as in the "touching other people" part goes..

[Sandoes16]

Sounds like she may be a bit insecure. I don't think you are at fault, but you need to set boundaries RIGHT NOW. Tell her that she is entitled to her perception, but that it is false. Tell her you are not cheating, and that you feel that hugging another person, who happens to be a girl, is NOT cheating. Do not apologize for what you have done, just tell her that you are sorry she was hurt by what she thought you were doing. Therefore, you are not saying you are wrong (because you're not), you're saying you don't want her to feel hurt because it makes you sad. And from this point on set the boundary that hugging does not equal cheating. You have the right to go out with friends and hug others!

[Laura Renee]

If you haven't done anything to betray her trust I think you should tell her to get over her insecurities before she even contacts you again.

[Bruce]

Hi,

I got experience with this sorta thing, if you go on your knees and say sorry for everything and keep apologizing she's going to be in complete control of you and sees your just a pussy and things will get worse and you'll feel like a total loser because you don't want to lose her and she knows that!

Look if you know your not a player and that you would't ever use a girl no matter what even if that stupid hug because it really meant nothing you know your really honest and would always be with the girl you choose'd from the very first start.

Then tell her this, Look i see you don't trust me "if she attempts to control you" you say you know what i know i'm not a cheater i would never ever betray you i love you more than anything and if you don't believe me there is the door then leave i don't want to see you for a little while. I know i am the most honest guy ever and i don't need you telling me your a cheater and that i'm not trust worthy all because of some photo that i just give a hug to a very good friend which is meaningless i don't need that. 'boom!'

All you have to do is keep your head high stay in control of what you said and keep that up. Than she'll come back they always do.

Don't go on your knees for a woman unless you ask her to marry you remember that.

Good luck brother.

[Ahmed]

You should not carry on.