Why would an Ex boyfriend, whom I haven't spoken with in years be disappointed because I'm married.?

[Good & Plenty]

I got to speak with a ex boyfriend from 13 years ago.
I happened to have a friend on my facebook page who knows him.
I told her to tell him hello not thinking anything else about it.
My friend said he ask if I would call him. I said sure.
We caught up with old times and it was great, however I could hear the
disappointment in his voice after mentioning my marriage.
After 13 years why would a person think that
life doesn't go on.
I didn't feel that way about him and his new woman and children.
I don't get that. He is really a nice guy too. Hard to believe his behavior.

[acmeraven]

I have said it before and I will undoubtedly say it again, "men are idiots". I speak with some authority on the subject as I am one of them.

[Point]

He was probably hoping that if you were single or in a lousy marriage that you two could hook up for booty calls and then he goes back home to his woman.

Let the past be in the past. Including the ex's.

[Danny]

PLEASE... listen to me very carefully !!!

My wife recently did the same thing! She began talking to an ex-boyfriend on Facebook until it led to phone calls, which led to lunch, which led to a secret dinner, which led to sex... which leaves me with dealing with the horrors of infidelity.

The point is, affairs start out very innocent. I know you think you'll never do this but neither did my wife. We had an awesome marriage for seven years but apparently this guy, who I never knew, always had some kind of a psychological hold on her. Now it cannot be taken back and our almost perfect family has been destroyed.

Either-way, this is the worst thing I have ever been through... and my children aren’t doing so well either. I don't know if it can be repaired nor if I even want it to be at this point. Two months ago I was absolutely sure about my life, now I know nothing but misery and pain! Facebook is a bar that allows us to associate with individuals that would have otherwise been unacceptable in a marriage just a few years ago. Stay out of the bar !!!

Go home, work on any problems you have with your husband, kiss your children all the time and take pride in the life that you have created! Otherwise there will be repercussions for your actions. Lies come with an expiration date. I've seen so many people gamble the whole pile for even a single dollar more. I can tell you first hand that letting this go immediately will affect you not a single bit but pursuing this anymore will ruin the lives of everyone you care about.

Respect your husband, respect your children and for goodness sake... respect yourself. I hope you will do the right thing, you already know what it is.

[black diamonds]

youre the one that got away.

[Gentlemensail577]

Some people have an ego the size of Mt, Rushmore-betcha he is the kind of BF that thinks he was so good for you that he ruined you for any other relationship. While there was no contact/info he could pretend this was true...now you've informed him you not only got over him, are not sitting in the corner for all this time crying and pining for him...you've gotten married....Bubble busted! Has nothing to do with how good his current relationship/life is....

...unless when he heard your voice he thought he could start stuff up because his new woman isn't as grand as you might think....easier to go back to some one you know than start a new relationship with some one you don't and have to learn all about. It's rather lazy, y'know.....