can someone help me understand what my ex is doing?

[Gabrielle]

Me and my ex have been talking again for the past week or so. I told him i didnt want a relationship right away but i will definetly in the future (it was the beginning of school and i wanted to focus on that first before i start something with him). Me and him have been hanging out a lot and last night me and him ended up having sex. When he first talked to me he said he wanted me back and it was a big mistake what happened (he dumped me). He said he wasn't ready for a relationship at the time but is now but i told him i wanted to take it slow.
today i found out hes been talking to this girl in the grade below me from my school (shes 15, sophmore in hs and hes 17, a freshman in college) I was grossed out at first but i still love him so i confronted him on it. He said hes single and im the one that said i dont want a relationship. I told him that i said i wanted one just not right then bc i didnt want to just get hurt again. He said he wants a relationship when his work and school schedule become less hectic. But im still worried about this girl bc from the looks of her twitter she likes him, she likes all of his things on fb and he likes hers sometime (only statuses). I asked him if he liked her and he kept saying "idk i just met her" but then he said "she is too young for me anyways". He said he still wants to hang out but he will tell me when hes ready for a relationship.

I dont know what to make of this. should i trust hes not going to just use me or should i just tell him to get lost?

[Amal M]

tell him its enough
you deserve better

[karmas4real]

Ugh...reading stuff like this gives me a stomach ache because Ive dealt with so many A-holes just like him that I can sense it a mile away and I wish I could convince girls like you to forget about them. If he wanted a relationship with you he would have taken things slow, he would have approached you maturely and asked about how you felt and explained what was going on, and he wouldnt have rushed into having sex with you because he should be respecting the fact that you wanted to take things slow. I mean, I obviously dont know him so I cant say hes a bad person. Im sure he has a lot of nice qualities or else you wouldnt be interested in him in the first place. But sleeping with you, and then taking back what he said before and making you feel unwanted for the time being is just wrong. He cant tell you that he is ready for a relationship, then take advantage of you, and then change his mind again and say that he wants to wait a little bit to be in a relationship again. Also the fact that hes blatantly being flirty with another girl like that in front of your face (because trust me, he KNOWS you can see all that stuff on facebook) is just immature and inconsiderate. You can approach the problem any way you wish but if I were you I would be honest with him and tell him that he isnt being considerate to your feelings and that he needs to just give you a straight answer. And if not, then youre moving on. Good luck!! And remember that there are PLENTY of other guys out there if this doesnt work out