Have my friends moved on? How do I do the same?

[Ven]

We were a really tight best-friend group at Uni, the most amazing mates I could ever ask for, and what I consider the only 'true' mates I ever had. We always had each other's backs, hung out all the time, and I really learnt to trust them and care for them all.

But, we graduated. Everyone went back to their home towns, two of them are engaged and living together, and I don't hear from any of them hardly at all now. I try a LOT. In the beginning, I managed to get us all to meet up twice, but the two who are engaged always leave after an hour or so, and it just seems like no one is very keen any more.

We don't text, don't facebook, none of them even GO on facebook any more. One friend deleted hers straight after Uni. I have tried to arrange us to meet up again but it's like beating a dead horse... one says no I'm busy every day for the next month, another doesn't like pubs or clubs so he won't come, another will ONLY go to one town which is miles away and expensive for everyone... it's just so hard!

I miss them, a LOT and it hurts... dare I say as much as a break up (I've also had one of those a few months back, for the same reason, soon as Uni was over my boyfriend ignored me completely even though HE was the clingy one always wanting me to hang out when I had work to do...)

Is there ANY thing I can say to them to get them to hang out or no? I miss them sooo badly, it's so lonely now. Or if not, how can I move on? I have a part time job but don't really fit in with my friends in my area, and it's a dodgy area so I couldn't really go out alone to make new ones...

[Ed]

Aw hun I feel your pain. This is one of the hardest facts of life, people move on and change.
Don't take it personally, it's not that they don't love you any more, it's just that you don't fit in with there lives any more.
It's probz going to be hard to move on whilst you're struggling to find a new niche where you live.
If you are only working part time then I highly recomend hiring yourself out as a dogwalker. You will meet sooo many people when out with the Dogs and you may even meet you're next Man.
A lot of churches do surprisingly good evenings like ALPHA where you get to debate religion and meet people and eat and stuff, I really enjoyed that and made a bunch of buddies there too.

Good luck x