Ladies, What should I do?

[Tors]

In the past few weeks, I developed a nice connection with this woman at work. We talk just about everyday and if we can't talk, we always somehow someway would have intense eye contact where nothing else in the world can distract us for those moments. We have had conversations on different personal levels. She would ask me some fairly personal stuff (family, life experiences, and my preferences with women/relationships) We make each other genuinely laugh and she has gone out of her way to converse with me while on the job. Throughout all this, I never was aggressive with my flirting and I gave my best in terms of being genuinely interested in her and I actually am.

So, after days of self pep talks, I finally asked if she would like to hang out outside of work. She gave me a very positive "yes" and I thought all was good....until I realized that I don't have her number. I mean I could of got it through work, but that's creepy and not cool. So on Friday, (three days ago) I wasn't able to get time with her or anything so I kinda went into a panic and sent her a DM on Twitter saying "What's your number, here's my number. Look forward to hearing from you." Well I haven't heard back and there's no way she didn't see it considering I've seen her tweets.

Now I'm not losing sleep or getting too frustrated over this, but I really would like to know why the no response. What do you think is going on? What would be the best way for me to go about this upcoming week?

I understand the desire to put down funny answers as I have done it many times, but I will appreciate any honest attempt at advice. Thanks.

[Taylor]

First thing I can tell you is to not let what you THINK might be the case get in the way of the many possibilities; maybe she intends to call YOU. Maybe the site's acting up. And, yes, maybe she just isn't interested now. I had and still have troubles like this when my boyfriend doesn't do something - but have learned that he calls as rarely as possible and hangs out as much as he can, if that makes any sense. There ARE different types of people who go about doing things different ways, despite what others here might tell you. There IS no status quo to adhere to, so your dating rules may very well be different from hers.

If I were you, I'd do what I'm always told to do when I get like this; try to talk to them. The next time you see her at work, talk to her face to face telling her you gave her your number, etc. and see if she still wants to do this. If not, it's no one's loss. You'll find another.

Also, you might want to refrain from coming here asking girls why she didn't do this or that, because as I said, there is no ONE WAY that things always turn out, or ONE REASON they didn't turn out the way you expected them to. We can't read her mind just because we're women.

[melissa]

Reg---since you and she talk "just about everyday" and make eye contact with each other, I would suggest that you ask her out during these talks or at least ask her for her phone number or give her yours during the course of talking with her. I you can catch her eye, tell her you would like to discuss seeing her as discussed earlier. I you have doubts, try to ask her directly if she was serious when she said she would like to see you outside of work. Maybe she is just considering your invitation to hang out further or she is not clear what hanging out would entail (a date or a friendly get together). I think there needs to be further clarification between the two of you on each of your perceptions or your intentions.