Very good friend ignoring me after cheating?

[runnercaiti1]

I have been really good friends and on again off again with a man for almost three years. Recently in the last year we have been flirting a lot over the phone and text (we live in different states at the moment). He invited me to stay with him for a week over the summer and I went. He said he would like to be in a relationship with me but doesn't want to do the long distance thing... and that he wants to move here, he just needs to find a job and finish his school year there. So he came here to visit with his job (in sports) and we saw each other and were intimate.

I had made plans to visit him and stay with him again but had to cancel a month ago because I told him I was seeing someone. He got very quiet but didn't say anything about it.

The other day I received a message on facebook from a girl he has been dating for the last two months! She was very nice and showed me texts he had sent her and I sent her some he had been sending me. They were all very lovey and intimate... and he had been asking her to help with his resume "for a job in canada" telling her if he got it he would move without a second thought and would break up with her....

Basically the crap hit the fan and we told him that we found out about each other... and now he won't talk to me...

This all happened about three days ago. I was very respectful about confronting him- I just told him how much he hurt me and how all I asked of him was to be honest with me, and how I had been trying to be honest with him about my possible new bf.

Why is he ignoring me? Will he ever talk to me again? Even if I can't have him I miss my friend most of all.

[Laney]

No, You blew his cover. He's on to NEW FRIENDS! *

[Red]

In fairness, since this was long distance, I'm assuming that he never promised you his exclusivity. That he was seeing her isn't a crime. But, it sounds like he'd suggested to this other girl that she was indeed his girlfriend, given that he suggested to her that he would end it with her if he moved.

Are you in Canada? Was she helping him with a resume to get a job where you are? If not that's even worse. It doesn't look great for him to be confronted by this by both of you. For a guy it's probably his worst nightmare come true lol.

If the 'crap hit the fan' as you say, then clearly, you felt duped by him and said so. I'd assume she's said the same thing and given that she was suspicious enough to track you down, I'd say she had even more invested in this relationship with him than you did. I'd say this guy is angry to have been found out, more than anything - I think he'll justify that he never promised to marry either of you and then move on to someone else. And mainly, I think you won't hear from him again because he figures you won't sleep with him again. I don't know what you meant to him, but if he'd ever really valued your friendship, he wouldn't have been dishonest about the other girl.

[no mercy]

but i can not understand - YOU were the one pursuing other males during all this mess, what do u have to complain about? u were as bad as he was. and remember - u always reap what u sow