I think I like my best guy friend...but he has a girlfriend?

[Sammy]

Okay, so I have this friend...he's been my best friend for 4 years, we know eachother SO well its scary. He's legit like a brother to me. He's the nicest guy I've ever met. In 4th grade towards the end of the year, I told him I liked him and he said he liked me back. In the begining of 5th grade, he asked me out but I said no because I really liked him so I wanted to wait until we were older so we could have a serious relationship. 7th grade we had lots of classes together and we talked on Facebook 24/7. This was the year that basically led us to become so close. We did kind of flirt with eachother...but it wasn't anything serious. It was like a "flirtationship" I guess. In march we were going to see The Hunger Games together with a group of friends cause we both loved the books. The whole time I was thinking of making a move...maybe grab his hand or something....but he never showed up for the movie. The whole movie I was looking at the empty seat next to me..wishing he was there. In April he told me he liked two girls. This girl Jamie, and "Girl 2"
He gave me hints and wouldn't tell me who it was so I guessed it was me. About 10 days later...he got a girlfriend. I didn't like her at all, and I have no clue why I just HATED her. In june we got into fights over his girlfriend and it almost ruined our friendship completely. During the summer she texted me and we talked cause my friend thought it would be good for us. I was civil to her, like I talk to her and I'm nice to her..but I still hate her. Whenever I see his girlfriend I think "she gets to hold his hand, she gets to hug him, she gets to kiss him" stuff like that. A few weeks ago he admitted to me that sometimes he feels he likes me too.but idk if its just cause we are so close because this has happened before, where one of us is just in love with our friendship. I always think how if I had said something when he said Girl 2, or if he had gone to the movie, or if I said yes in 5th grade..I could be with him..

[Sara]

Just be honest with him about how you feel

[Bree]

Keep in mind that once you break out of the "friend zone" you really can't go back. Or at least it is very difficult to. If you are happy with how things are now, just stay like this for a while. He has a girlfriend, so you don't want to confuse him and make him leave her for you. if this causes more problems then he could blame you.

[Andrew]

Keep in mind that times change. Even if you did say yes in Grade 5, there is a chance he would stop talking to you completely. You did the right thing by saying "no." You saved the friendship. Girl number 2 may very well had been you, but he was interested in girl 1. He liked Girl 2, but he wanted the friendship more than a relationship that could potentially destroy everything between you both. He cares about you a lot, and he didn't go to the movie because he was afraid it would be the blossoming point of a relationship that could destroy everything. Don't be upset by this, friendship is a powerful thing. you hate his girlfriend because she has what you want. It's envy, and you envy her. You should ask yourself, does she make him happy? If she does you should let him be. Remember this, If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't then it was never meant to be.
This is very true, and if I didn't live by this quote, I wouldn't be happily married for 3 years with two beautiful children. Patience is part of finding the right one. Friendship is not something worth giving up. Sometimes the ultimate sacrifice is letting something you want so badly go, just to savor something you don't want to end.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey!

[Keosha]

Hurts like hell doesn't it?! So your having regrets.....stop it!! You seriously need your space from him. Find yourself a guy that u kinda like, and he like u. Date the guy. Yes, if your bff/crush, like u, u hanging with another guy r have a boyfriend will make him jealous. If he really like u, well things will fall in place. As for his gf, stop saying u hate her b.c u dont. Besides, u can't blame her b.c U didn't play ur cards right. Lucky for u, u have many chances to fix things. Keep this in mind, u DONT want to fuck up ur friendship with him, u will always b his friend, and she is just another girl. Good Luck.

[Stephanie]

Confess your feelings to him privately and let him know where you stand. If he doesn't feel the same way still be his friend and move on.