He went through my inbox on Facebook..?

[Meg22]

My boyfriend came home while I was in the shower, went through my cell and read my inboxes on Facebook. (normally I have a password on my phone, but I took it off the other day)

My boyfriend left home, text me..and said I initiated a conversation with a guy..and told me to delete the guy from facebook OR basically that our relationship is over.
I initiated the conversation while drunk..and said "whats up ".. and he responded but I didn't reply back.. the guy lives across the country and I've never dated him before or anything like that..(the convo happened a month ago) At the time my boyfriend and I were broken up briefly.
Anyway, I deleted the guy..
I'm just sooo annoyed right now because he then told me to delete another guy from facebook who messaged me while we were broken up..I didn't open that message either! So I deleted him too.

I tell my boyfriend that i love him so much every single day..He knows how much I love him..because I tell him and show him through my actions every single day. I just spoke about marriage and kids just a few days ago too...

and YET... he doesn't seem to trust me?! I don't understand.. is he just really insecure or what?

I realize a relationship can't last without trust but I need to know:
> HOW can I reassure him that he is the only man I want??!! <

.. I have neverrrr cheated on him and I would never ever think of cheating on him either!!..and no I don't have a lot of male friends, nor do I speak to them through text or facebook!

He's 31 and I'm 24 by the way.

Thanks
..he's cheated on me before..in the summer he kissed a girl..so we've been working on trust issues.

all i said to the other guy was "what's up ".. literally that's all i said..

it's just frustrating because he immediately wanted to end it without my explanation at all..also because i feel like he doesn't believe how i truly feel about him.

[everready]

this behavior is that of a control freak. but then, if you are breaking up so often, and you converse with other men ,and don't delete them, you're playing a stupid game of your own. the two of you better decide to quit gaming, or go play with someone else.

[Sonshine]

I believe that your boyfriend is very insecure and is afraid of losing you because you are 24 and he is 31. HE knows you still have a lot of time before you want to settle down. HE is too much into your business and doesn't trust you or have any boundaries. His behaviour is unacceptable and he should know it. You shouldn't have to walk around on eggshells all your life with this guy. Tell him what you want and you get the strength and courage to call the shots. Let him find someone else to control.

[Chronos]

Trust has to be earned. If he said to you that the relationship is over if you write with that guy again you seem to not find this relationship to be important if you write back to this person. In other words you have broken the rules and I even suspect that you broke them deliberately. No offence, if not then not. But the thing is to now earn trust will be extremly hard. There is no easy way to earn it again, what you have done is completely destroyed his trust in you. Now only time and constant not trust breaking can heal the situation. With time things will improve and the wound will heal. Also consider about what you did write with this other man that he was so outraged, you seem to break some partnership boundaries. + If you consider him to cut off your freedom, please don´t stay with him / don´t lie to yourself, as he is interested in another kind of relationship.

Edit:
If he has cheated on you.... he is just a monster sorry to tell you this but I know how this kind of people are. He is this kind of jealous to hold you in a prison of feeling bad about yourself for doing a minor mistake (sorry I thought you wrote to this guy AFTER your bf told you your relationship will be over if you keep contacting him). He makes you feel bad to ensure that you forget about him cheating on you and to hide his other affairs. Such kind of people cheat a lot and make others feel bad by being jealous towards them without a real reason. So my advice is quit this relationship immidiately. Once a cheater always a cheater. This is very true. And believe me I know such people and he will hurt you very much. He knows how you feel about him he just plays with you.

[leochen1001]

he doesn't truly love u