best friend problems, please help?:(?

[laura!♥♥]

Lucy and I have been best friends for like two years. One day i wanted to meet up with this boy who I liked (Matt) and me and Matt both agreed to bring a friend for the first time...so I brought Lucy of course and he brought his friend Liam. Liam does drugs, dropped out of school and as Matt described him "doesn't get on well with the ladies". Anyway, Lucy and Liam hit it off and got on really well, began texting afterwards for a week, and a week later he asked her out over text. She said yes and they began dating. Turns out Matt was a d*ckhead anyway because he already had a girlfriend and he kissed me on that day blah blah blah anyway we don't talk any more.

Lucy and Liam have been together two months now and they literally do EVERYTHING together, to the point where I never get to see her any more. it annoys me because I know I set them up and now it feels like I've been replaced.

I went on vacation last month and I said to Lucy weeks before I went that I wanted to see her before I went to say goodbye and we agreed we would meet the day before I went away. The day before I was supposed to meet her I text her arranging times and she told me she was seeing Liam instead that day. That made me reeeeeeeeeeeeally angry and I just went crazy at her because everything had been building up for weeks and I just let it go and like EXPLODED seriously.

It doesn't help at all that me and Liam DO NOT GET ON. like at all. we hate each other. he keeps starting petty arguments with me on text/facebook/twitter and went through a phase where he was getting all his friends to prank call me on blocked numbers. i stopped answering them but still carried on getting 10/11 missed calls every day on my phone. they would not leave me alone!

i got back from vacation and found out that while i was away, Lucy had betrayed all my friends by telling Liam things that we had told her in confidence and that Liam was now using them against my friends e.g. who has slept with who etc. Some of it was also b*llshit that never even happened and he is now using them against us. so basically nobody in our group trusts Lucy any more. she knows that! this caused a massive fight between Lucy and Liam when Liam put some of this stuff on twitter and they basically almost broke up. Liam was all soppy towards me, as if they were about to break up, and then the next day she told me she didn't trust him any more.

so i thought they had broken up. turns out they didn't because i saw them together the day after. she told me she would ALWAYS pick me over him, like i did for her when I had a boyfriend. But none of this has happened as she is now always with him.

Today on twitter he began arguing with one of my other closest friends and picking fights with her, causing a massive argument again and now I have actually had enough of all this.

I texted Lucy about it, asking if we were going to get ourselves out of this mess before it was too late, but she never replied. I know she'd been on her phone as she had posted a facebook status via mobile in this time.

now i dont know what to do. i know she doesn't care about me at all so i wonder whether the right thing to do would just be to let her go. i guess i'll just really miss her, we used to spend so much time together before he got involved!

i regret meeting up with matt on that day SO much because i could still have my bestfriend.

what do you guys think i should do? i've tried talking to her about it and she just says that she can't control what he does and that i just have to deal with it.

sorry this is so long but could you please leave some advice on how to go about dealing with it, do i drop her gradually or just all of a sudden like she did to me? or do i keep fighting to be friends with someone i could never trust again?

thankyou for reading x x x
Tatum - thankyou so much. i really appreciate it! i'm 16 too thankyou!

[Vivi]

Tell her. Confront her.
Or just drop hints that you two are separating. ):

[Paul]

Give her an ultimatum. Stay with that dickhead Liam and end the friendship or break up with him and stay friends. But I'm I guy and we use the bros before girls rule.

[Tatum]

She obviously doesnt know a good best friend when she has one. None of this is your fault and believe me I've been in your situation not nessisarily the boyfriend telling everyone's secretes but my ex best friend had acctaully thought I was trying to get with her boyfriend and she was a big ass. You have a choice. Put up with her abuse or completely ignore her. That kind of relationship you have now is utterly unhealthy and you in the end will end up in tears. Its best to let her go. Stop talking to her all together and if she really wants to still be your best friend she'll realize what she did wrong. If she doesn't and you find to trust someone again I advise your next best friend be a male. It really works for me. I'm not sure how old you are I'm 16 and to me it sounds like Lucy is being selfish and childish. She either needs to be talked to or ignored. Your choice. I wish you the best.

[James]

It seems that she made her choice and that wouldn't be you. I'll just leave her and let her feel when a true friend is out of her life. She just abuse you whenever they have problems she's sure that she can run to you but let her show what she chose.

Let her know that she's not your lost!