How do you move on and let go? I'll answer yours?

[Jacob]

After about three months after my break up, which I still haven't found out why, I had finally gotten over my ex girlfriend, I had finally gotten to a stage where I felt good. Then my ex and I started to become friends again, we were getting closer and it got to the stage where it was just like it was before we broke up. We were hugging again, talking, having lunch together, she was even playing with my hair while hugging like she used to. It was great and my feelings for her came creeping back. Well I guess they never felt but I had supressed them in a way. Then a week ago she asked me if I wanted to go the movies with her and to have lunch at our favourite café, the one we went to while dating. And I said yes, and then I felt the way I felt just before I asked her out for the first time. Her she was, she was the one who had really got close and she then asked my to the movies. And I thought that it was a single that she may have wanted to get back together.

Yesterday we went to the movies and it started off good, we had a good time. Then I found out that she had a boyfriend, but we had lunch and still had a good time despite me feeling gutted. Then later on when we were going to another café, she ran into a group of friends and sort of ditched me.
And now, I’m heartbroken again. You know with the fact that she asked me to the movies like we used too and that she had a post on Facebook about finding love and keeping it, and I was stupid enough to think that we could have gotten back together. My friends all warned me against going with her but I thought things might get better, I was stupid enough not to listen to them

I keep letting myself get thrown around by her and it has to stop. I keep pouring my heart out to her, like we walked past some shops and she said.

“You know, when I was little I wanted to be bigger so I could wear stuff like that, cause I was skinny back then and you know how loose clothes look bad. Then I got fat, no in between skinny or what, just fat”

And I said.

“Tanika, you not fat, you’re beautiful, always.”

Every time she calls herself fat, I tell her the truth, that’s she’s beautiful .She’s not the slimmest of girls but she’s still beautiful. And later when we were having chips she looked over at a couple next to us and said

“You know, I wish I could find a guy who thinks I’m beautiful”.

Was she purposely leading me on? Or just didn’t realise? As much as I hate this, I need to move on. I feel so much for her but it just feels like it’s one sided. I give and give with nothing in return. And I can’t keep doing this to myself. I have to move on. It’s stupid but I feel the same right now as I did when we broke up, as if yesterday we broke up for the second time. Last time I tried to remain her friend but now, and I hate myself for this but just I don’t want to be her friend any longer. I just want her out of my life, is that selfish? Is it wrong? I mean I’ve lost friend through distance and drifting away but never through wanting them out. I just don't know, there’s so much just through my head right now, I just don't know what to think for something’s.

If you have any help to give, please do because I need it right now.

[Lightning She-Bolt]

You really need to stop hanging out with her. You obviously can't be friends with her because you'll keep falling for her and it'll hurt YOU if you have to see her with her boyfriend all the time. It's not selfish to cut her off for that reason; it's saving yourself a lot of pain.

[Amelia]

Stop contacting her now. This is affecting you and needs to stop. Go out and try meeting pretty and nice people. Get their numbers and start hangin with them. You need to get your mind off her. So keep busy!

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It sounds like she's leading you on.... I'd stop talking to her for now cause your just gonna get hurt....