did I do the right thing? Does she really want to be friends again?

[shakiralou.]

Okay, basically I have a friend who I've known since reception school but one day she just upped and left and I never saw her again until about 1 or 2 years ago she found me on Facebook and since then she became really good friends and we were texting/bbming and face booking each other. Anyway she then got a boyfriend and we suddenly just stopped talking (this was summer just gone 2012) anyway in June I had a few bbms off of her one saying 'Heey' and then a few hours later saying 'why are you ignoring me?! Fine be like that' and that was it. (this was because I thought since she's gotten a boyfriend she thinks she can ditch her friends) anyway long story short cuz you're probably getting bored Just Sunday gone I decided to inbox her on Facebook saying how I really miss talking to you which was true and if we could be friends again' and she said yeah we can' but I haven't heard from her since and I just get the feeling shes not really bothered about being friends again with me. Did I do the right thing? Should I stay friends with her or forget about her? We've stopped talking about two times x thanks in advance

[Derri]

Clearly this is a matter of chicks before d*cks. If she cares more about a new love interest than her friends then why should you bother? You've tried which is a decent thing for you to do, and if she hasn't answered you back then that's her fault.

If you want to be friends with her still then it will be one of those friendships that whenever their is a new guy in her life they will always come first before you, always. You can't do anything about it but stand back and wait for her to come crawling back to you when the guy disappears from her life. Sometimes doing that just isn't worth it if I'm being honest.

My friend and I experienced the same thing, and if I'm being completely honest here I did kind of ditch my friend when I met this new guy, and it wasn't until she found someone that I experienced how she felt at the time. So now we're all good, we understand that we can make time for us and time for them as well. It's all about balance when it comes to that sort of things, but if your friend can't be bothered? Then by bother (lol that word seems funny after typing it out so much) but yeah, at the end it's up to you what you want to do. Just make sure you come first though!