how do i deal with this?

[Kayti]

Okay on august 1st i broke up with this guy and i cried sooo hard... about a week after me and him got into a fight on facebook and i stopped eating my depression stopped me and then when school started he came back to school even tho hes not suppose to be there he graduated last year and well he gave me a few gifts trying to get me back i felt terrible and tried not to cry then 3 weeks later he showed up again but this time he did the whole thing on trying to make me feel guilty.... he told me that when I broke up with him he had just gotten a tumor removed from his shoulder and that he lost both of his jobs and was in intensive care with in 3 days time and he said he didn't tell me cause he knew it would worry me and after that i walked away got half way to my class and cried i didn't stop either and then it got worse I felt like he was stalking me and my friend says that he moved on but i feel like he didn't and every time i pass by his place to go to Walmart i expect to see him standing out side or to see him at Walmart but i don't and at school i expect to see him there and it scares me when i think about.... I'm in a relationship with this guy we went out before but now i don't know if i should even be in a relationship still i still feel very hurt but i love this guy.... i need help!

[loft-y]

you have too much time on your hands.. you're overanalyzing this. Its like... one event in your life, and its devouring you.

[Poppy]

Look, you got to try to be by yourself for awhile. Think about it, you said you broke up in August right? Yet you are now in another relationship. Mmmm... Lets see aug 1st plus 3-6 weeks of crying doesnt sound good chica. November just started ,ya dig? Youre not giving yourselc time to think and lov you first. Secondly, the first guy sounds like emotional blackmail. You broke up with him, then dont receive any gifts. Period. If hes popping up at your school and ha no business bekng there, makes you unconfortable etc then you need to tell someone of authority. Only you know how hi personality is. Listen to your instinct. Is this the first time? Btw, how coe you didnt defriend him? People break up for reasons. Thats why theyre called ' ex'" . He knows your #, he knows your address etc kinda sounds like he cant cope after graduatimg.( He too needs time alone to love himself) and dropping by with trinkets is away to not only get on campus, but its used as an excuse to see you, and to see who youre talking to, play detective and ask people who remember him or a (buddy still there) everything about you. This is a dangerous game. Again, get off the frickin computer get a piece of pper out and writw down the events and talk to a parent fkrst them you two have a meeting with th school. If youre so depressed tht youre not eating youll be too weak to think and/or react if need be.And again, thats why i suggest you hit the brakes on these reıbound relationships . Oh yeah, isnt there anither way to get to Walmart without passing by his house?? Cause you starte sounding lkke a stalker on tht one. Lastly, if being in a relationship for Christmas gifts or for the sake of not being alone for the holidays is your goal, its not worth it. Trust me. Your sanity .d well being are priority. Its hard to get assistance with quick turnarounds. Unfortunately, girls are judged & marked unfavorbly then and at times not taken seriously either. Soooo again, handle this situation and have a support group ie family, school authorites etc plus pump th brakes on the new guy for now (because you dont need th extra drama) and get to know yourself again -peace