why is he doing this to me?

[Cindy]

I met this guy a few weeks ago. He added me as a friend on facebook. He made all the moves. We had a great first date. The second date was amazing and then we started meeting up once or twice a week. So we've been getting to know each other. A bit of kissing. He's initiated sex but we haven't done it yet.

So he's been charming and has been making me feel like a lady...Until...

One day he said he was looking at an old facebook profile picture of mine and he said I looked slimmer and happier compared to recent ones. To be honest that one he was looking at was taken in a nightclub so I'm wearing slinky top, heels, etc. One of my recent ones...I'm wearing ear muffs and a coat...a bit different. Of course over the years I'm a little curvier. I'm fit and very healthy. My body is hour class shape. My waist is slim and my hips are curvy.

Anyway so now this guy is saying stuff like will you lose weight for me, you should eat 2 apples and a soup everyday. He said I'm beautiful. Now I just feel like rubbish. I can't feel or want to be intimate with him.

Is this a power trip? I'm confident, well travelled and I have a good job. His work situation is a little bit shaky. I feel he is saying this stuff about my weight to make me feel bad.

One day I didn't answer my phone because it was too late. He thought I was on a date. So I guess he has low self esteem. I'm aware I need to tone up a bit. Although I'm not overweight. Yesterday I didn't want to eat. I felt like he controlled me.

Thoughts?

[john]

is this a joke...?

[Stan]

My guess, you probably do need to lose weight. Doesn't seem his place to ask it as a personal favor though. I suspect he is right, while also being wrong. Hehe.

[Veronica]

dont listen to him if he really likes u he wouldnt be saying that...
maybe he feels bad about him self that he wants to bring u down with him
just dont listen to him n tell him to be straigh up with u

[evessin]

Wow. And yet your still with him? He's rude and controlling. Your in his power right now.

[Paula]

Oh girl run! I mean RUN! get rid of this guy now. I am serious. If you stay with this guy, he is going to rule over you and take over your life. I am not a young girl who doesn't know anything. I am a mother of 3 adults and grandmother to 5 kids. I know a thing or two.

He is looking for a sugar mama. And he is very possessive. He will alienate you away from your friends then family. He will keep you in his grasp and you will become sad, depressed, controlled, have low self esteem, etc. If he is acting this way after a few dates, he will get much worse once he has you in his full control. Have you seen any talk shows like Steve Wilkos or Maury where the ladies on there are being mentally, verbally and physically abused by their men? This is what you have to look forward to.

Please please please, listen. Do not listen to him. Listen to what I am telling you please. You will regret it forever if you keep this guy. Do not have sex with him either. He may get you pregnant to trap you. And if you have a kid with him, he will use that child against you as well. he will threaten that if you leave him, he will take the child from you. He will use everything and anything he can to control you.

Change your phone number and do not answer your door to him. If he harasses you, get a restraining order against him.

[Repulsia]

He's being an asshat and showing you who he really is. Take the warning now. You love you and don't change for anyone.